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Hey everyone, as you may have realized, I took 2 days to try and relax and get away from CP, but apparently it got me into more unnecessary bad than good, and so I am happy to return back home to this site in hopes that I will regain my sanity. With Trinidad carnival on the horizon, I will be doing some shopping this and next weekend in preparation for my trip. I will be hitting up my ultimate favorite accessories store today to shop for some gorgeous jewelry for myself and to sell while I'm in Trinidad. I will finally do a review on this spot, though I've been meaning to do it since last year. My mistake! Lol! I will also hit up a couple of stores for some nice affordable sandals and clothing. There is nothing likes shopping, that can bring a miserable girl's frown, right side up. If you haven't already realized, I started a new CP Chatline for those of you that can instantly text me your responses to the "Questions of the Day" or just have something you want me to talk about, then you can simply text your information to the number located on the side bar. I will be adding even more features on CP, "The Chronicles of Laffy Tacky". It will be a comic strip of unbelievable characters, that I'm sure you can certainly relate to. Believe me when I say that it will having you say WTF! If you haven't noticed, CP has gone 80's. I've added some of my favorite 80's hits that brought back so many great memories for me. I hope you enjoy it. Due to conflict of interest, I am no longer associated with the SF Dancehall Awards, but I did promise to continue to support the reason behind this show and that is to send 3 single mothers to college. So check out their website, www.sfdancehallawards.com for more information. It's been a stressful week but I'm back and ready to focus all my energy on this blog. You guys are so important to me and again, I thank you for continuing to stand by me. Patty loves you dearly!

LOSING MYSELF

My intentions for 2010 was never to drag the same BS from 2009 and prior into this year, and I find myself breaking several of my resolutions already. We've only hit day 30 and I'm continuing to allow myself to be bothered by things I can't control, people that annoy the shit out of me, and those coming around me with some real out of timing talk. While I try to defend myself, I also find myself losing myself in the process. I think back and wonder where all of this anger originated from and the need to be the walking razor defending my beliefs. My childhood was dealt with being bullied by different individuals and censoring myself to the point where I had no identity and now that I've become older, I feel the need to cuss and carry on about the slightest shit. Is there any need for me to waste minutes of my life on non life changing situations? Nope, but I allow it to control me. I'm tired of apologizing for actions that may be repeated again. So right now, I'm taking control of my life and environment. Part of me feel ashamed but I begin to laugh it off because it felt damn good at the moment. So tonight I shall go down on my knees and ask God for the guidance and protection, because this jumbie vibe is trying to take control of me and I won't allow it to happen. I just can't.

DINNER, NO MOVIE LOOK

I went out to eat with my sister and this is what I decided to wear.

Plaid button down top: Rave

Denim jeans: Forever 21

Tan sandals: Asos

Handbag: Dooney & Bourke

PLAID LOOK

I wore this outfit to work on Thursday. I've always had a thing for plaid pants. It can make any girl with a not so flattering bamsee look like she got some junk in her trunk.

Black cotton tee: Forever 21

Plaid pants: Forever 21

Black Pumps: BCBG

6 THINGS I HATE ABOUT TRINIDAD CARNIVAL!

I seriously have a HUGE pet peeve when it comes to going to Trinidad for carnival. It becomes an annoying routine when people say and do certain things without realizing the effects it has on a person.

1. First of all, my parents were born and raised in Trinidad. I've spent years of summer vacations and carnival in Trinidad and it's really my second home. I get so annoyed when people ask me, "how are you enjoying your vacation?" Now, I know they are being courteous, but come on, this isn't a vacation. A vacation is somewhere that I've never been before, have no family living there, and unaware of my surroundings. I go to Trinidad at least twice a year, and don't consider this a vacation. It's carnival! Nothing big!

2. Because I live in Miami, that doesn't mean that I don't eat Trinidadian cuisine. My mother cooks everyday and it doesn't consist of American food. Don't ask me if I've ever eaten Roti, or a Bake & Shark. It's like asking a Italian if they've ever eaten lasagna!

3. I'm fully aware of my figure and the fact that I'm no longer a size 4. To constantly hear my friends and family tell me "yuh put on size" is so damn annoying. Like WTF! You telling me this doesn't make me feel any better. It's hurtful! The sick thing is the ones that tell you this is a fat ass themselves!

4. Airlines only allow up to 50 pounds per suitcase and you're only allowed to check in 2 bags. Please remember that! I love my family and friends but sometimes, the things they want you to bring is extremely heavy and takes up space. In order to ensure they get their things, we have to sacrifice our own. I'm not willing to pay 50.00 US for an oversized bag! I would love for people to realize this prior to sending us these big ass list.

5. Every year, I rent a car for the carnival, but I'm getting so damn pissed off at that fact that these private car rental places are over charging us for daily rentals. 50.00 US per day is outrageous and damn right wrong! If I'm renting a car for 2 weeks, when the average Trinidadian will probably rent it for 5 days, why wouldn't you offer me a discount. Greedy bastards!

6. This is the big one! When I finally land in Trinidad for carnival, I can literally smell the excitement in the air. Clapping as the wheels touch the runway, soca music playing as we walk by the airport shops, photographs of mas costumes line the hallway, and then the excitement comes to an end when you go through immigration and customs. I can almost expect to get bad treatment from these people every year and I feel worse for those that are coming to Trinidad for the first time. A smile on your face or nice greeting wouldn't hurt. A soft toned voice and proper instructions on where to go, wouldn't hurt. We sacrifice days from work, and money to come for carnival, and all we ask is for respect.

RUBBING MY TUMMY

Being pregnant can be a magnificent experience. Life changing! Pregnancy can also be a pain in the ass when people feel the need to approach you, extend their hands outward and being rubbing and even scratching your belly. I know a couple of people who are pregnant right now, and they are honestly annoyed and bothered by women constantly rubbing their tummies. They describe the experience as a invasion of their bodily space. If they would ask first, they may be able to at least give you the permission to do so, but just doing it without consent is dead wrong and a big WTF!

LAYERING LOOK

The weather got a little chilly today, and so I decided to add on some layers to keep warm. This is what I wore to work.

Ivory cropped cardigan: Forever 21

Brown button up top: Old Navy

Tweed style slacks: Heritage 1981

Brown flats: Nine West

Handbag: Vintage Dooney & Bourke

HOLDING HANDS

I took a look at this picture of Beyonce and Jay-Z holding hands and thought, "how sweet!" Honestly, my man and I have never walked anywhere interlocking our hands together. I just hate public displays of affection. I don't know, I just feel like I don't have to prove to anyone that he and I are together. But looking at this picture, it almost makes me rethink things. Though I don't need my hand held to show that I am loved, it's so nice to see young black couples displaying their affection oblivious to the paparazzi that surrounded them. Caucasian and Hispanic couples are known for doing such things, but I have to wonder why it's not prevalent in the black community?

QUESTION OF THE DAY?

Ladies we are often complaining how there aren't any good men to date, but when you finally meet one, you choose the bad boy instead. What is it about the good guys that never seem to win? What is it about the Mr. Big's that we can't help but to want? Leave a comment, send an email to therealchattypatty@gmail.com or text your answer to the CP Chatline at 305-896-9957.

MULTIVITAMIN SUPPLEMENT

For many years, I was anemic for the simple fact that I am a vegetarian. I had very heavy periods to the point where there were days when I would stay home unable to walk about without having excessive bleeding. I was always tired, and the visible dark circles didn't help my appearance. Deciding one day that I wanted to live a healthier life, I stopped off at the drugstore and talked to a pharmacist who recommended I take Centrum Multivitamin/Multimineral Supplement. It's been almost a year and I am happy to say that I'm in great health. I'm no longer anemic, and my periods have become much lighter and less painful. I take 1 pill a day after breakfast. It contains all the necessary vitamins needed for stronger living. Hope my experience will enable some of you to give a try.

**Please note that I also take an iron supplement in addition to the Centrum**

PEOPLE'S STYLE WATCH

I don't know why it too me so long to take notice of People's Style Watch magazine. I'm seriously hooked! What I love about this magazine is that they show affordable items of clothing, accessories and shoes that an everyday working girl like myself can afford! Not wanting to waste money these days, I decided to subscribe to it, because 2 issues was enough for me to know that it's worth every cent. I have the 20 issues for $1.79 each. I'm saving about 2 dollars each month! Check it out if you haven't read it yet!

LADY IN RED

I wore this outfit today at work and thought I looked good until I walked into the house and my mom called me "Little Red Riding Hood". Lol!!!!!! She said it didn't look right. Oh well, I liked my get up, it was good enough for work, but I'm always willing to hear your opinion. What would you have changed about my look? What pieces would you have added? Please be honest!

CHATTY PATTY HOTLINE

For a while I wanted to start a hotline where you can send a text of any questions you have on relationships, beauty, fashion, etc., of course you're information will remain anonymous. This hotline will also be for when I send out my questions of the day. I don't have a question of the day as yet, but when I do, you can simply reply by texting your answering. I like to do polls and get a sense of what my readers think! So here is the number 305-896-9957! Yes, it's a real number, so don't hesitate to send a text to me, and say hello! I will add your number to my contact list so you can be first to hear about new contest, postings, or anything pertaining to Chatty Patty. Again, this number is only for Chatty Patty purposes!

500 DAYS OF SUMMER

Long time ago, I use to complain about Sundays and how I hated it knowing that 24 hours later it would be the 1st day of the working week. But I've learned to appreciate this day and all that it had to offer. I finally got to see the movie 500 Days of Summer which stared Zooey Deschanel and Joseph Gorden-Levitt. Imagine meeting someone and falling madly in love with that person only to find out that they're not interested in a relationship. You stay with them hoping that in the end, things will change, but it doesn't. The person tells you that "I want to be friends," after a years of dating. The depression turns into hate. You see this person again and it seems like old times, the reality of the situation is very different from what you've imagined. The reality wins. Your ex couldn't commit to you, but he/she was able to commit to someone else. They are getting married. You're left wondering why it wasn't you. Why was that person the chosen one? So this is what the movie was basically about. I related to this movie and appreciated the fact that it wasn't another typical romantic comedy. Such is life and I'm sure many of us have been in this situation before.

LONG DISTANCE BAIT

My better half & I met via Internet we've been together for the past 4yrs and married a year now. My husband and I spend allot of time texting each other. Due to our long distance relationship. Some people may think I'm crazy but I'm not to me what could happen long distance could happen right under my nose. One evening I was doing my niece hair and realize I'm not getting text messages as I would normally. So I asked Hun what are you doing? He replied nothing sexy. It went on like that for approximately a hour. My inner heart was saying he's doing something 9 times out of 10 my inner heart isn't wrong. So I text again and said to him, Why are you doing that and don't ask what? I'm not stupid. With that message he called me ASAP instead of replying with a text. When I answered the call I was very calm and asked again, honey what you doing and don't lie to me.. Again he said I'm not doing anything baby. Now taking a chance I said yes you are and your lien to me. Well at this time I don't have to say how quiet got..Then I said did you forget modern technology these days baby? He didn't say a word because as he say his wife is a computer whiz. So I threw a bait to catch a fish, I said if I could top up your phone via Internet you didn't think I could see who your call log. lol It's funny now it wasn't then. He started to cry and admit he was speaking to a old female friend. Then he offered me to speak to her via three way calling and I said no feeling bad that he's crying and I lied catching myself and said call her now before this marriage end. He proceeded and called her now I don't have to say what I told her but the result is she don't call him any more. Now I never ever lied to my husband this is my first and only lie and I don't know how to tell him the truth before he finds out.

XOXO

Anonymous

I'VE GOT A FRIEND IN HIM

My boyfriend is extremely over protective of me and he does have good intentions but the way he executes it at times can be quite hurtful. He has a tough as nails personality and I have the same too, but at times, I cry and I'm hurt because I bottle a lot of my emotions inside. Sometimes in a relationship we tend to lose some of the friends we had when the love first began, and you look back 41/2 years later wondering where did the love go. I don't have one of those personalities that is likable. I don't have a set of girlfriends I can call up and say "hey, let's hang." If I'm not going out with my man, then it's with my sister, and though we all try to think that we don't need friends in our life, we eventually realize that we do. There are things that you can do with your girlfriends that you can't do with your man or even your sister. I don't want you all to think that I don't have friends, because I do, but some live in Trinidad and the ones I do have here, have their own lives to live. So I had an emotional breakdown today, because I often feel like I did in high school, alone and misunderstood. No matter how old we get or what we feel we've become, things and situations in our past, always come full circle. So my man said the sweetest thing to me, "babes, I love you for who you are," and all I wanted to do was cry a little more, because I know that every word he said is true. We are so different from one another that it allows us to balance the relationship. I let him have the dancehall spotlight, while he allows me to be creative and quirky. In the end, I realized that I will always be that same girl in high school, who never actually fit in to any circle. I'm sure that there will be more tears shed in the future, but I know that I have a man that loves all of me and reminds me ever so often that "he has my back."

GOTTA FACE THE REALITY

When I was 17 yrs old, I met this guy who was about 24. Things started off rough, but we soon began dating. With me being in high school, I had to sneak out the house in order to see him, sometimes even resorting to skipping school to get some alone time. All my friends and family would tell me that he was cheating on me and I would never listen. He was notorious for having females around him, and when I would question him, he would respond, "that's my homegirl." One day, a mutual friend of mines told me about a baby shower he went to for a girl who was pregnant for my boyfriend. Apparently, he was told that he and I weren't together anymore. I wanted to find out who this girl was and to my surprise, she was a student in one of my classes. A hood rat chick that had a 6th grade education and was known to sleep with a lot guys. Meanwhile I'm this well educated and respected girl and he chose to cheat on me with someone with no class. We broke-up and I went into a deep depression. But love conquered all and I took him back and accepted his son in my life. Besides, his son was the innocent one in the situation. A couple of months later, we finally ended the relationship. At the end of the day, my trust for him had vanished and there is no relationship if you have no trust. He and I talk every now and then, but dealing with that situation has forever changed the way I think about men. No one is invincible to getting horn no matter how beautiful you are or educated you may be.

Chatty Patty

PLASTIC FIGURES

When you look back at the 80's and 90's, the video girls had more a natural look. She was the hood girl from next door. You could go shopping with her in the day, and party with her at night. You didn't feel intimidated, because she looked just like you. Now, the same thing can not be said for the girls of today. With plastic surgery soaring to new heights, black girls are feeling the need to transform their bodies into these unrealistic characters. Flooding the tv are images of black girls with DD breast, tiny waist, and a HUGE ass! They are "setting" the trend of what a HOT body is supposed to be. Honestly, I'm sick, disturbed, and disgusted by the images I see and I knew that it was time that I finally write a post on this issue. When you see me, you see a normal girl. I have a DD breast that is REAL. My waist was small, but it grew bigger. I have an extra cushion in the middle, and I have an ass that no guy even notices, but that is what makes me who I am. I don't have the size of a model or video vixen and yet I'm being compared to these fake plastic wannabee Barbie biatches and I'm sick of it! People, their figures aren't REAL! Google some of their names, and you will see old pictures of these characters pre-ass padding and breast implants. I have nothing against Nicki Minaj. She is a talented artist and she has earned a place as a respected female rapper, but I don't respect the image they portray and the fact that they aren't truthful to the public about their cosmetic changes. Heidi from The Hills came out about her surgeries and the reaction has been a HUGE backlash, but the end of the day, she was truthful. When people look at Heidi, they know that what appears on her face and breast aren't real. Can the same be said for these video girls? I'm not influenced by these women, but the same can't be said for the many young women that allow them to become a role model for what a woman's body is supposed to be. There is an insecurity that goes along with their choices whether they want to admit it or not. It is up to you to either allow it to become what you want to be, or look at your own natural beauty and appreciate what God has given you.

ALL-INCLUSIVE WEAR

Trinidad Carnival is known to have some of the best All-Inclusive fetes during the season. I'm not really into that kind of vibe, but I love to look at those that attend and their fashion. An All-Inclusive party is more relaxed, mature environment, and more fashionable. People tend to really go all out, and there are some of the things I would love to wear if I were attending one of these fetes!

1. Navy sleeveless dress $28.00

2. Long Silk Maxi dress $92.00

3. Skies Mini dress $58.00

DAY & NIGHT LOOKS

Usually when I do my random shots, it's mostly in my works clothes, well I decided to give it a little spin. What will happen if you were at work, and your co-workers decided to go to Blue Martini for some drinks? How will you be able to turn your daytime look into an evening look with the girls? Here is my attempt at it. Honestly I would of liked to have done a better job, but what the hell, we all got to start off somewhere.

DAY:

Pink hoodie, Anchor Blue

Plaid Tunic, Delias

Khaki Pants, Wal-Mart

Pink Patent Leather Pumps, 10 Dollar Store

NIGHT:

Denim Jeans, Forever 21

Jacket, DKNY

Black & Pink Leather Clutch, Soho, NY

PAYLESS FOR THE CARNIVAL

Earlier, I had a chance to begin browsing more sandal options for carnival, and I'm surprised that I didn't think about looking at Payless. Why not? Carnival is all about nonstop feting, drinking, and sweating, so why buy an expensive pair of sandals when you can save money and simply purchase some at Payless. I saw a couple that I would love to get for the carnival season and they are all available in stores and at www.payless.com.

1. Hooded Sandal $14.99

2.Gladiator Kitten heel sandal $24.99

3.Exotic Sandal $24.99

4.Silver Gladiator Sandal $24.99

5.Turquoise Ruffled sandal $19.99

UNKNOWN SOCA ARTIST ARRESTED

So the Trinidad Express had an article in today's paper on an attempted robbery at the KC Factory in Couva and apparently the robbers got away, but not far, because the police were able to trace the license plate of the car back to a Soca/Dancehall artist who stays in Enterprise, Chaguanas. Well, there are only 2 artist that I know who stays there, one being KMC and the other being Blazer. If this is true, I'm afraid to say that it may be Blazer who has once again landed himself in jail. If you remember, Blazer was arrested for the murder of his own brother and was released a couple of years ago. He's had some great hit songs, but has never seen his full potential as an artist. I do hope that this is some kind of a misunderstanding and that he will be cleared of all charges, but if not, then it will be yet another strike against this troubling artist.

***Please note, the Trinidad Express NEVER released the name of the artist. This posting is based on my own personal guess and opinion.

OKAY, SO I LIED...

Okay, I know that in my last post, I said that I will be taking a 2 day break from blogging and I thought that I would be able to do it, but my personal life has convinced me that at this point in time, I can't afford to do so. Work has been so stressful this week and it only convinced me that the harder I work on CP, the closer I can get to my dreams. No sitting inside a cubicle doing the same repetitive work over and over again, I want to do work that will bring out my creativity. My job doesn't inspire me, but the thought of knowing that in a couple of hours, I can leave work and start blogging again, gets me excited. I love this so much and when you love something that you do, then your work gets better over time. I remember days when I would have writers block and get frustrated and now, I just write about anything. Yeah I know that I don't have many comments, but I know you're reading it, I just want to keep you happy and wanting more. After all of this, I know that I can't take a break, or rest when I know that once I work hard, I can eventually reap the rewards. So, I just wanted to tell you this, because I already started putting up some new postings for tomorrow and it's obvious I broke my promise. So enjoy some of my favorite breakup songs of all time. The list would of been much longer, but the site wouldn't allow to add more songs. Oh well! The songs I have so far are depressing enough to make you shed a tear or two. Enjoy!

DANCE LIKE YUH CRAZY

Check out this track by German Bling from Black Blingaz featuring Whitey & Jr. Taxi

RAMBLING ON AND ON AND ON

Hey family! Usually around this time, I'm sitting at my lappy typing up my blogs for the next morning, but tonight, I'm beat. I'm so exhausted and I just want to go to sleep. I had an exam for my online class, which also had 2 long ass assignments attached to it, and it took me longer than expected to finish. I didn't even get to turn in one of my assignments, because the professor wanted us to PURCHASE Microsoft Word 2007. Mind you, I have a Mac and I have to borrow my mom's laptop in order to do an assignments. I can understand 10 years ago, where most people weren't using them, but in 2010. I'M NOT A PC!!! So I'm irritated that I have to spend more unnecessary money on software or travel to the library to use the computer. Hell no! I chose an online class for a reason because working and blogging takes up so much of my time. I need that flexibility to work on my OWN schedule. Well the class is paid for and I'm 3 classes away from getting my Associates and so I will deal with it, and hope it pays off in the end. Honestly family, I feel a little overwhelmed. Work has been crazy busy and I'm doing other projects at the same time while trying to maintain this blog and though the Chat Never Stops, I do need a day or two to recuperate. I can't promise you that I will because this blog has become my addiction, but I think it would be the healthy thing to do. Just 2 days of a breather. Hopefully you won't desert me. I have over 400 blog postings and I'm sure that half of you have never read EVERY posting. Which blog you know has that many blog postings and I've only been around for 10 months? Well family, I'm signing off. Take care and don't do anything that I wouldn't do. Patty loves you!

CARNIVAL WEAR

There are so many options of clothing you can wear for the Trinidad heat during carnival season, and these are some that I found so far. I will feature much more, so stay tuned.

Denim overall romper $25.50

Jeggings $22.50

Stripped grey & white high waist skirt $6.80

Woven mini dress $19.80

CARNIVAL SANDALS

Trinidad Carnival is all about being comfortable. There are is so many feting down for long periods of time where the only sane thing to have on your feet is something flat on your feet. Gone are the days of wearing bulky sneakers. Below hare some hot sandals I've found on www.dsw.com and www.bakersshoes.com.

Beaded Gladiator Tribal Sandals $34.95

Madden Girl Alowha Flat Sandal $29.95

Gold Strappy Sandal $25.95

Chain linked Sandal $59.95

LUSH WINNER..HOPEFULLY!

Congrats to Whyt1 for winning the Lush Giveaway...message me your information so I can FINALLY ship them off! Thanks again for participating...hopefully the next contest goes a bit smoother!

THE LETTER

I have been with my boyfriend for the past 9 yrs. in the middle 2008 him and i started having problems,i have never kept it out of the back of my mind that he was a man and all men cheat but i wanted to think he was different. in august of 2008 i got a great surprise, i came home one day on my lunch break and found a us post it card from the post office stating that my boyfriend has a letter at the post office for child support papers and i thought to myself i never filed for child support so i thought to myself what could this letter be about at the time i just applied for a new apartment so i thought that was were it was coming from because the apartment complex asked me if i received child support and thinking more about the letter i thought maybe that's were it came from. when he went to the post office to pick up the letter he never told me what it was for and what it was about or even who send it.i got real curious about what was going on and started doing some investigating on this letter, he hide the letter from me in "MY OWN CAR" after i found the letter i quickly went and made copies and got on the Internet and started my research on this girl. nevertheless my boyfriend was giving a court date to go and take a DNA test for a lil girl at the time was 4 yrs old.then i started going through his phone and text messages for a couple of weeks, doing so as a result i also found out he cheated just recently and fathered another child with another young lady. in the back of my mind i was wondering what the hell was going on, was it me! what did i do to deserve this?

my boyfriend and i currently have 2kids together at the time they were 5 and 2. after all this came out, i put him out of the apartment, we fought and as a end result we broke up for a while but eventually we got back together for our children. i know people are going to judge me but i think my love for him is strongly still there. it's not the matter of how i caught him cheating it just came knocking on my door because i never expected it.

Anonymous

MACHEL & BEYONCE

Those of you that are going to Trinidad Carnival next month is well aware of Beyonce's concert at the Queen's Park Oval on Thursday February 18th. Now it's been confirmed that Machel will be opening for Ms. Knowles at the concert. I'm sure that at this moment, many people are rethinking the amount of fetes they will be attending for the season. I for one am one of them. Though I saw Ms B in concert last year, it's nothing like going to see her again, with Machel opening the show. So for those of you that are going to Trinidad for carnival, are you attending the concert and if so, will you limit the amount of fetes in order to go.

CARNIVAL MAKE-UP

With carnival less than a month away, I would like to give you guys as much information as possible. My girl Tsahi "The Makeup Artist" is offering her services to those still in need of beautifying their face for the carnival.

Dramatic Eye Makeup with glitter, eye lashes TT$200 - $250

Dramatic Eye Makeup with glitter, eye lashes, body jewels, appliqué TT$250 - $350

Click the link on the side bar for more information.

LUSH GIVEAWAY UPDATE, OOTD, & SO FLO INFO

This weekend, I planned to have a couple of OOTD photos but it never happened, because I went ABSOLUTELY no where this weekend. Well at least no where I needed to get pretty for. How sad! Sometime this week, I will get dolled up and take some pictures. I will be recreating another look for a fashionista and trying to give some carnival looks of my own. Well as you all know, I did a Lush Giveaway on Friday and unfortunately for one of the 2 winners, didn't confirm before the deadline and so I drew another name. At this very moment, I haven't heard from her either. At this point I'm ready to keep the soaps for myself, but I won't. Chatty Peeps, if you are interested in the Lush giveaway simply email me telling me "I Want Lush". Of course, you must be a follower, so if you haven't become one, do it now and email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com by Tuesday, 19th of January, 12 noon. I will only pick 1 name from those that have emailed me. Your item will be shipped the same day. Wednesday, 20th of January at 11:59pm is that last time you can vote for the So Flo Awards nominees. Please click on the side bar link to make your vote count.

WHAT'S IN MY PURSE?

I believe the items in one's purse can tell a lot about a person. I would like to think that I'm a pretty neat person, but at times, my purse can be quite junky. So here are the items that I usually keep in my handbag...

Gucci make up case (It came with my gucci clutch bag, but I thought it was better suited for in my purse)

Ray-Ban eyeglass and case (I should be wearing these all day, but I haven't)

Checkbook

iPhone

Aveeno Lotion (It's tacky to walk around with ashy anything)

Carmex (Best lip balm)

Extra Gum

C.O. Bigelow all purpose salve (I only use it for my lips)

MAC Blot Powder (Great for people with oily skin)

Visine

Bath & Body Works Hand Gel

Revlon tweezer (The best)

Pens

Mary Kay blotter tissue

Hand mirror

Loose coins

LUSH GIVEAWAY WINNER

One of the winners never responded to me by the cut off date for the Lush Giveaway and so I did another drawing. The new winner is Stacy Baird! Congratulations girl! Please email your information therealchattypatty@gmail.com by Monday January 18th at 11:00 pm. If not I will have to draw for yet another name.

A KINKY THING

I had the opportunity to get my hair done at a natural hair salon in Miami, "A Kinky Thing". The salon is owned and ran by Sherrie. This beautiful eccentric woman's talents are evident in the photographs I've seen. She's done Rita Marley, Goapele, Ricky Smiley, Super Cindy and so many more. Not only limiting herself to just hair, this salon sells beautiful leather goods, jewelry and hair products. Located in Miami, it's a perfect location from those looking to avoid the long drives to other salons. Call Sherri @ 305-343-8373 or email at akinkything@yahoo.com for an appointment. Check out these photos that I took and my new look.

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I FEEL SO GUILTY

As the horrific events of the earthquake in Haiti is told through the graphic pics of dead bodies that lie on the street sidewalks, the wailing of the babies crying in pain and hunger, and the men and women fighting for a sip of water, I feel guilty. As I went to the mall tonight to shop for Trinidad carnival, knowing that the Haitian women don't even have a clean panty to put on before they go to bed, I feel guilty. 2010 has started and yet we are dealt with an event that will NEVER be forgotten. How can I sit down at Red Lobster this evening and enjoy a night of dinning with my sister, when so many Haitians have no kitchen stove, dinner table, or family members left to share these moments with. These are things that we have all taken for granted, a job, an education, a working car, a home with clean running water, digital cable, and working DSL. Tonight when you sit back and watch tv while you share some ole talk with your family, remember the hundreds of thousands of Haitians that are sleeping in home made tents on the ground, trapped under tons of debris while they wait desperately for help to arrive, and those that never had the chance to survive and are now being dumped in trucks and carried away to be buried in mass graves. Think about the Haitian girl who lived 2 days while her legs were trapped under debris only to die hours later due to her extensive injuries. You know what her last words were in Creole, "mama don't let me die".

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BASIC ESSENTIALS

Anyone that knows me personally knows that I'm a t-shirt kind of gal. I love to wear basic tees in different colors, whether short sleeve, t-back or long sleeve. I got these from Forever 21 for $3.50. You can wear these with jeans, shorts, and skirts. You can layer them under a cardigan or blazer. Add a scarf to to give it some style. A basic tee is an essential part of every man, woman and child's wardrobe. It's affordable and it's a must have.

JANUARY LUSH GIVEAWAY WINNERS ARE...

Congrats girls, you are the winners of January Lush giveaway. Please email me your name and address to therealchattypatty@gmail.com . You must email me by tomorrow at 12 noon or else I will have to redraw another name. If for any reason, you do not want the products, please let me know. Look out for another giveaway next month! Thank you for your continuous support and keep spreading the word. Patty loves you!

LOTD

Today was another jeans day at work, but this time, all the proceeds are going to the Red Cross for the relief effort in Haiti.

White Shaw: Target

Pink top: Holister

Dark Demin: Forever 21

Wedge Heels: BCBG Max Azria

NOW I'M EMBARRASSED

So today, I had a Carrie moment. I didn't want to post this but this blog is all about keeping it real. Well today I was in bed with my man and the unexpected thing happened. I FARTED! Let me tell you people, I wanted to DIE! Lol! I'm not afraid to use his toilet to do a number 2, but farting is out of the question. I do want him to think of me as a woman and not a girl who farts. Yes it's human, but I'm not supposed to do that in front of him. I usually excuse myself and do it without him knowing. So when it happened, I said excuse me and I'm sorry, but I was so mortified. Thank God we began watching a movie and it kind of diffused the situation. He didn't seem to care and even acted as if it was nothing, but even now that I'm back home, I'm still embarrassed about the whole situation.

LACK OF MANNERS

My friend and I were having lunch today and while we were in the middle of this deep conversation, this guy walks in and without saying excuse me, starts yapping his mouth and talking pure shit. This isn't the first time this guy has done it and frankly it's getting to a point where I want to say something, but I'm not in the position to do it. Does anyone have manners anymore? Does anyone say "excuse me for interrupting"? Money can't buy you manners atal! WTF! Seriously!

DIGGING IN THE TRASH

I went out of town for the weekend and saw my boyfriend when I returned. I went to use the bathroom and while I was washing my hands, I looked at the garbage bin and my instincts told me that there was something in there that I needed to see. I started digging through the garbage bin and saw a condom wrapper and a used condom wrapped in toilet paper and hidden inside the role. He and I don't use condoms. I was so upset and thought that I should do some more investigating before I come to him with the evidence, but my emotions took the worst of me and I confronted him. He denied the whole thing telling me that it was his friends that they were at his place with some girls and that was their condoms. I started crying and I left his house. I know you're going to say I'm stupid but he and I are still together. His friends called me and told me that it was their condom but I still believe that they are covering up for him.

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REVLON'S CREME LIPGLOSS

If you've read my Walgreens haul during their huge holiday sale, you would of seen that Revlon's Cream Lipgloss was one of the items that I purchased. This is definitely my favorite lipgloss. I love the way it feels on my lips without leaving a sticky residue. It has a tint of color. I went to Walgreens this week and I see that the gloss is still on sale. The price isn't as low as it was when I purchased them in December. I swear by this lipgloss and hopefully these will last for some time. I'm not adding it to the Items of the Week, I just wanted to tell you how great these glosses are!