NEW FEATURE!

I'm going to be adding a new feature to Chatty Patty and I would like to get YOU involved too! We women have a tendency of purchasing items and at the moment, we love it, and once we begin to use it, we realize that it didn't work for our needs. I will be featuring these items and letting you all know what items didn't live up to its hype. Of course, I can't do it alone, and I would love for you all to email with a product that you purchased that either, broke you out in a rash, makeup products that gave you a clown like finish, and expensive items that you purchased that maybe a drugstore brand would of done a more effective job. Simply send me an to therealchattypatty@gmail.com stating why this product didn't work for you. A picture of the item, would be even better. If not, its okay, I will supply the photo. I will be featuring a number of items starting from tomorrow, so stay tuned. I may have just saved you from wasting another cent!

AND THE WINNER IS....

I would like to send a big congratulation to Roc Baudin for winning the Coastal Scents 88 palette!  Thanks for participating.  Remember that Friday, December 11^th is the last day to become a follower of Chatty Patty in order to qualify for "Patty's Favorite Things" Contest! Good luck!

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

THE SLOW DEMISE OF SOCA FETES

Being a lover of soca music and living in Miami can often be difficult. Ten years ago, I couldn't say the same thing, because there were so many great fetes at that time. Machel and then Xtatik, Traffic, Atlantic and so many bands use to frequent down here. The parties were very frequent and not just one great fete every other couple of months. Times have changed and I have more enjoyment going to dancehall sessions than a soca fete, because honestly the soca fetes, in my opinion are about as extinct as the Florida Manatees. Why? No offense to the dj's but the music selection isn't good at all. I'm often left bored when I hear them and can almost predict which song will play next. The fetes are far and in between, just dj music and no artist. I understand that we are in a recession, but it would be nice to bring an artist down once in a while. The types of people that go to these fetes are very unfamiliar to me. My friends that I would party with in the past have either moved away or have children to care for. My solution is that I go to NY to get my soca fix. NY has enough fetes to keep me satisfied for a couple of months. Going to dancehall parties doesn't make me any less prideful of being a Trini American. If there were more soca fetes that really grabbed my attention, believe me, I will be there. Dancehall gets too routine at times, I am tired of the passa passa, but I don't indulge myself in that behavior. I would love to see a change in Miami when it comes to soca. I hate to only be seen in a soca fete during Miami Carnival weekend, but that is what it has come down to. The solution to this growing problem is that we need to bring soca back to an outdoors atmosphere. What happened to the daytime fetes? I'm tired of only going to clubs where soca is being played for 15 minutes and then its back to dancehall and hip hop. I'm tired of the wet fetes and jouvert fetes. What about a nice back in times party or an all inclusive fete. My parents want to party too, and its not right that Mad House be the only option. Bringing a soca artist even if its without the band will be a great boost. The soca community is so large and with proper advertising, we can bring back the soca fetes in an effective way. Soca lovers, tell me what you think?

HEAD WEAR!

I love this time of the year, when Miami gets chilly and we can finally dust off those sweaters and coats and get a little cozy! Well, there is nothing that adds comfort to winter wear than sporting a Beret! Berets come in all different colors, and textures and they are back with a vengeance. I do believe that berets are an item of clothing that never goes out of style! You can wear them with just about anything. I purchased mine at Forever 21 for $9.80. I saw some sequined berets that I'm hoping to purchase soon. Check out your nearest Forever 21 or purchase them at www.forever21.com!

POPEYE'S FOREVER 21 VS AMERICAN APPAREL REVIEW!

When you think of Popeye Caution, you think of FASHION! Friday night I attended Popeye's recession friendly "Forever 21 versus American Apparel" dance! I decided to wear my Forever 21 dress that I had worn Miami Carnival weekend. I feel no shame about it either! I got to the dance around 4 am. I believe Fire Reds was playing at the time. There was plenty people inside and can I say that the theme of the night should of been BOOTS! Because it got chilly this weekend, the women weren't playing when they came out in some HOT knee high and over the knee boots! Some, honestly, should of tried better because it looked over worn and in need of a shoe repair! Lol! I got my drink at the bar and began to vibe to the music. Onkore followed and began to play some hip hop tunes that had the crowd dancing. There were about 3 video men in the party. I saw a lot of familiar faces and many unfamiliar faces. Many people flew down for this dance, to no surprise to me. Unfortunately, I didn't bring my camera with me to take any pics, because there were a lot of women, who I felt really did a great job with their looks, while some failed at it miserably! Queen Nicky came out showing off her lovely baby bump. Damn she's in great shape for an expectant mother! The dancers came out showing their respect to Popeye. There was honestly more women than men in the dance, and I'm sure the men were very pleased. I can't remember the name of the venue, but I love it! Its very spacious and you're not left sweating at the end of the night. I do have a problem with the bar area being way too small. Overall, I had a really good time. The music was great and there was no violence! Thank God! Look out for Whitey, Zeke Don, and Scientific "All Black Everything" birthday bash on December 12th at Inverarry Banquet Hall!

TANYA GLAMA PARTY REVIEW

Thanksgiving night, I was supposed to go to How Mi Look Thursdays, but on my way to the dance, my man called to tell me that the police shut down the party. I hope that this doesn't affect it next week and so forth. We decided to attend Tanya Glama's Passa Passa party. I got there a little after 4 in the morning. Yes people, I love to go to clubs LATE! Nicky Blacks was on the mic talking and making me laugh at times, while Juxy from Innocent Sound played some tunes! I LOVED the outfit that Tanya Glama had on, not surprisingly, cause anything she wears seems to be very innovative and edgy! She wore this denim two piece with an attached zippers all over. Unfortunately, I didn't bring a camera to snap a picture, but I'm sure some of the party websites will have it there. The party wasn't ram but it had a nice vibe. No violence! Thank God! No women fighting for the video camera! The party ended after 6:30. It was a nice lime, great music by Innocent and Gary Sweetness!

COASTAL SCENTS GIVEAWAY & MORE!

Hey Chatty Patty peeps! Today is the last day for the Coastal Scents 88 palette giveaway! You simply have to be a follower of this blog and email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com. My internet has been down for the last couple of days, so I was unable to blog, but now I'm back up and running and have plenty of blogging to do. I went to both Tanya Glama and Popeye Caution party this weekend and will be doing a review on both parties. I also have a new item of the week. I will be adding new fashion tips too! I had a very busy Thanksgiving weekend and I'm going to take some much needed rest, so check back later. Patty loves you!

SPOTLIGHT LOVIN!!!

Dear Chatty Patty:

I recently met this wonderful guy who happens to be a popular person and apart of a well known entertainment group. But with popularity comes alot of judgment and negative opinions about him when it comes him with women and relationships. He is known as the "player" and as we say " galis" lol. Since weve met I have seen a total DIFFERENCE in what my friend had to say about him. He's truly puts a big smile in my life and I enjoy every minute we have around each other.... but I dont want to be unrealistic and get caught up with someone who will hurt me in the end.

Do I listen to a friend or follow my heart. What shall I do Chatty Patty?

Full Bloom thanks for emailing me this question!  I know first hand what it is to date someone in the spotlight because I'm currently in one right now. These relationships are the most difficult to deal with because you will constantly hear the talk "he have plenty woman", "he horning yuh"!  Well if you're not mentally and physically prepared to deal with this then you're wasting your time but if this guy makes you smile and brings out the nervousness that you haven't felt since you were a child, then he's someone you should get to know. People will ALWAYS have something to say but you have to be able to tune the noise out and concentrate on what's important, you and him!  It is never easy!  I deal with disrespectful females on a daily, rumor mills spinning out of control but at the end of the day I trust him and know that we have a strong love for one another that out weighs all the negativity. So girl, listen to your heart but always be smart!  Have fun!  Take it slow and really get to know the man behind the bright lights!  He chose you for a reason!  These men can have any half naked groupie at the club, but he saw something in you that outweighed the competition!  Your friends can give advice but I hope that they stand by any decision you make. Patty is going through the same thing and it can be too much to handle at times but remember who you are and don't allow this situation to change who are!  Please keep me updated!!  You just inspired me to write a couple of post on this topic!

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

GOING TOO FAR?

In the late 80’s and early 90’s, Madonna began to really push the envelope of her sexual escapades with Erotic and Justify My Love. The videos were ground breaking, and even caused MTV to banned them from daytime viewing and instead show it at late nights. Though it was very sexual, there was a classiness that came with her new found sexual freedom. The same can not be said about the performance of Adam Lambert on the AMA’s Sunday night. I know everyone and their Tanty have seen this controversial performance and though I happened to miss it that night, I saw the reruns on E and I was in disbelief. I’m all for expressing your sexuality, I have absolutely nothing against gays and lesbians, but there was something so distasteful about his performance. At one point can an artist just be real and stop going through all kind of stunts in order to gain record sales and publicity in the media. The kiss with the man never bothered me, but what got to me was the way he pushed the guys face to his prick and began to gyrate all in the man face! There was nothing natural about it; it was if he was being forced to perform oral sex on national television. This “bring your ass over here” style! What the hell is this all about? In a time when we have a 5 year old who was found brutally raped and murdered by an animal, Adam Lambert chooses to do such a raunchy act to show the world “I’m here”! “Watch out Britney, Madonna, and Christina”. He could have done it in a more tasteful way! He continues to make excuses about, “it was late night television”. Well Adam, I’m sure many parents allowed their kids to watch the AMA’s thinking that this is a Dick Clark awards show and it would be more tasteful than MTV. What bothers me the most is that they want to make it into a gay rights issue, and to me, this has absolutely nothing to do with gay rights. It’s about decency and class! It’s about leaving certain performances for late night television or for your concerts. It’s about children seeing acts like this performed by their favorite artist and thinking “if Adam can do it, then its okay, there is nothing wrong with it”. Janet Jackson, had a wardrobe malfunction at the 2004 Super Bowl, and her career has NEVER been the same since then! She was fined thousands of dollars. MTV practically blacklisted her videos and it’s only through MJ’s death that she was able to gain some exposure. Adam Lambert performs oral sex on AMA’s and the only punishment he’s received is a cancelation appearance from Good Morning America. He has a great voice and the bachannal that happened on stage Sunday was not needed. He should have allowed his vocals to shine through, but instead he took the cheap route like so many artists are doing these days for extra bad publicity. Was it worth it? Will Adam’s career receive a backlash, only time will tell?

JAPANESE STEAKHOUSE REVIEW

Last weekend, my better half took me out on a date to Japanese Steakhouse restaurant. I've gone here plenty of times before but never got the opportunity to do a review. The location is right in the heart of E. Las Olas Blvd, near other popular restaurants. I had an 8:30 reservation and actually arrived 30 minutes early. Not a problem, we were seated right away. As you enter inside the restaurant, there are tables that surround each individual burner. Note that when you dine at JSH, you may be seated next to other diners. Our waitress quickly came and took our order. I ordered the Tofu Steak with a side of shrimp. The dinners come with both a side salad and soup. I love both! The salad comes with ginger sauce and the soup has small squares of tofu. Our chef came and confirmed our requested order. The chef was great! They love to put on a show while they cook the food. The food is prepared fresh and cooked right at your table. I love to dine out and many times, you pay so much money for lousy service and food that is not up to par, not at Japanese Steakhouse. I recommend this restaurant to anyone going on a date, or even celebrating a birthday. Its an intimate environment, with great Japanese food! Located at 350 East Las Olas Blvd, (954) 525-8386. Make a reservation today!

AND THE DEBATE CONTINUES..

The battle between single and happily married/dating women debate will forever go on. As long as there is a single woman complaining about her status and how badly she is in need of a good man, there will be a woman right there to tell her "your ass should be thankful".  Why are women in relationships like this?  FREEDOM! There is nothing in this world like the freedom of a young single woman, living on her own, with no man to answer to, no designated time to return home, and the will to do whatever, whenever.  I remember when my god sister and I were both living together and single, we tore the town up. Clubbing 7 days a week and coming home to meet the sun, waking up the next morning to talk about our dating horror stories, and let me not forget about packing up the car and going on road trips to a party 4 hours away!  These are the perks about being single that I truly miss, now that I've been in a relationship for almost 5 years.  Not to say I'm complaining about my situation, but I truly believe that single woman must be a bit more appreciative for this time of serenity, when you can focus on yourself and have this time to do the things that we tied down women envy!  Being single allows you that time to work on your career, education, and travel. Being in a relationship is great and I love the fact that I have a supportive man that allows me to really spread my wings and do the things that makes me happy.  We often get into little squabbles about certain situations, but at the end of the day, he realizes that I am a rebel and I will always remind him that I have 1 father and I'm not in the search for a second.  Some women aren't as lucky as I am.  They have men who tell them what time to come home, what to wear when they go out, and even eavesdrop on their personal conversations.  Yes their insecure, but as women, we were born to push our own feelings aside to cater to our man, and if our man is unhappy, then we find a way to fix it.  Forget the fact that my girlfriends and I have wanted to spend a week in LA, my man feels that right now isn't the time and you know what, I cancel my trip to be by his side.  These are the sacrifices that are made, when women are in relationships. "Well I need a man by my side on those nights when I'm alone in my bed".  Well ladies that is where a FUCK BUDDY comes in!  I had one for years when I was single.  He was someone you dated but nothing came out of it, but you were always reminded of the great sex you had, and so he's on stand by and honestly, he never seems to mind.  There is a mutual respect amongst the two of you where he knows what his position is.  No lies or secrets, just a simple phone call and a drive away.  You have protective sex of course, and it fills that void on those nights when you're in need of some sexual healing.  An FB never stopped me from wanting to be in a relationship, and I never felt less than a woman when I had one.  I don't want single women to think that I'm bashing you and trying to tell you to shut up and deal with it.  No!  I was single for many years and there were nights when I would cry because I wanted to be loved, Valentine's Day's when I got no gift, or New Years with no man to kiss, but at the same time, I didn't allow my lack of a companion to stop me from living life.  I embraced my singlehood and took it for what it was.  I have years of memories of good times to share!  At the end of the day, both single and committed women, must learn to embrace their situation.  Single women, no more hanging your head low, waiting and wishing.  It will happen when you're ready, not when YOU think you're ready.  Married and committed women, stop trying to act like your relationship is some kind of jail sentence.  If it really is a burden, then go to the nearest exit sign, if not, please stop pretending that it is.  Tell your man you love him and find ways to make your relationship as brand new as the day you met. 

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

URBAN DECAY

A while ago, my friend Miss M.C. of http://www.belleandchic.com/, mentioned Urban Decay's Primer Potion and so I took a trip to Sephora and decided to pick it up. It's been about 2 weeks, now, I am happy to add it to my Items of the Week (not Patty's Favorite Things contest). Don't let the size of the bottle confuse you. A little dap of the primer goes a long way. I love the way that its so creamy and smooth. It goes on well, and desolves onto your eye lids. It makes a huge difference when I'm applying my eyeshadow. It's retailed at $17.00 on http://www.urbandecay.com/ or go to your nearest Sephora to pick it up!

AMBER ROSE!

I got this picture, courtesy of http://www.concreteloop.com/. I so love and admire Amber Rose's style. Here is a woman who understands her body and embraces her sexuality to the highest level! Through dating Kanye, she has embarked on making a name for herself by attending the hottest gatherings, sitting front row at the must see fashion shows, and sometimes just walking down the the street in her signature hip hugging fashion. Girl Amber, Patty ain't mad at you ah tal! Do the damn thing, cause you do it well!

PRECIOUS MOVIE REVIEW!

Last weekend, I had the opportunity to see Lee Daniel’s movie, Precious. After reading Push by Sapphire, I was physically and emotionally prepared. First off, the movie was superb! Monique put everything into this role, and I hate to say that someone better get an Oscar, but in this case, she is so deserving of this award. Monique, who played Precious’s mother was so real and raw with her performance that you can only imagine the real life Precious’s in this world that goes through this situation, everyday. Gabourey Sidibe, who played Precious was so real with her performance as this sexually, physically, and emotionally abused Harlem teen. I kept saying, she reminds me of my cousins in NY with her gritty and yet delicate persona. Mariah Carey redeemed herself after Glitter as case worker Mrs. Weiss! Gone were the makeup, hair, gowns and diva personality! Paula Patton, aka Mrs. Robin Thicke, did such a great job in this role! She is so reminiscent of Halle Berry. Ladies, Lenny Kravitz looked so fine! Those eyes will hypnotize you!!!!!!! Overall, this movie got a 10! This movie came with so many backlashes from the African American community! I can’t comprehend why such an issue as incest, should be hidden as if these problems do not exist worldwide. This isn’t a black thing or white thing, it’s a universal thing and until people wake and realize that this is going on, it will continue to happen. I praise Oprah and Tyler Perry for putting their financial backing into this film and being so vocal with their history of being abused as a child. We can either choose to ignore this or try to find a way for us to openly talk about this, so that we can give hope for those that feel that there is no way out. People, if you haven’t seen this movie yet, please go out to the theaters and support this film. I don’t support piracy in any form or fashion!

IT CAN BE YOURS TOO!

Hey Patty Peeps! I said that Friday was going to be the big reveal of my special surprise for my followers, but I was still trying to make up my mind on what I wanted to do. Now that I was able to think things through, I am happy to announce that one of my followers will be the winner of 88 palette from Coastal Scents! You heard me rave about my palette, and now its time for you to enjoy the same experience. You simply have to add yourself as a follower on Chatty Patty and send me an email at therealchattypatty@gmail.com and let me know you would like to be entered into the drawing. You have until this Wednesday, November 25^thto send me your email. Good luck!

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Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

TIME TO CELEBRATE!!!!!!

Chatty Patty started off on a stream of emails between me and Ms. MC ofwww.belleandchic.com.  Jokingly I stated, "Move over Perez Hilton, here comes Chatty Patty". Who told me to say that?  Ms. MC took the initiative to go on speed mode and get everything organized for me to start my own blog.  I was having bad writers block which lasted over 2 years.  I was afraid to put anything on pen and paper, fearing my work will be criticized and so I just occasionally wrote a blog posting here and there on my MySpace page, and occasionally I would get comments.  Most of my post dealt with me ranting in rage over disrespectful females or just any random thought that came to mind.  We had a slow start, and at times, I was honest with wanting to stop the blog, because I felt like I was writing to myself.  I got many personal emails telling me not to do it, and that they were reading my post and loving it!  So I continued on writing, but I realized that I had to keep this blog about me!  I began writing post and reviews on restaurants I would dine at, parties I would attend and products I would use and so my audience began to grow.  I always pride myself on being honest, whether I'm pissed, happy, disappointed, depressed; I wanted you all to know.  The giveaways are something I LOVE to do!!  It's my way of saying thank you. I had people come up to me and say, "Why are you spending your own money"?  Well, you have to give in order to receive, that is what I live by! Nothing comes without hard work.  I have had many 3 – 4 am all nighters blogging and coming up with new ideas, dusting off my old journals to think of new relationship topics, and many hours of constantly reading books and magazines and finding out what's out there.  Chatty Patty is like my second job.  I love it more than my first job. It's not a fly by night thing.  I take my writing extremely serious!  I respect those that are interested in blogging, but you must know what you are getting yourself into before you step into the fire.  It's not an easy thing at all and it can often be intimidating.  There will always be a blog that has more readers, followers, and sponsorship than yours.  There will always be a blogger who's writing skills are more advanced or who's more knowledgeable on certain topics, but at the end of the day, you have to have the confidence to know that your blog is something special.  You can't let this stop you from pursuing your dreams, no matter what it is. Writing has ALWAYS been my passion, and for years, I let that hold me back from taking it further, and in March of this year, I said "NO MORE"!  No more will I allow my fears to control my destiny.  No more will I allow my critics to control my emotions.  There will always be someone that will tell you, "You're wasting your time" or "no one wants to read that shit"! There will always be someone waiting to pull you down, but what matters is whether or not you will join them too.  I watch everyday, my little dream blossoming into my reality and it's all thanks to you!  You give me a reason to stay up on those late nights, blogging, researching, finding trends, giving advice to those in need. My purpose has always been to Enlighten,Educate, and Entertain, and that will continue on to our next Chatty Patty milestone!  We did it, 10,000 and counting!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Continue to SPREAD THE WORD!!!!!!  Patty loves you!!!!

 

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

LIP BALM

Its that time of the year when our lips get chapped and brittle. I go absolutely nowhere without my Savannah Bee's 100% Natural Mint Julp Beeswax Lip Balm. Its small, light weight and when I apply it, its never sticky or greasy. I wear it under my lipstick or lip gloss to give it that natural glow. I purchased it at Bath & Body Works, but honestly I can't remember the price and its not appearing on their website. Guess what...it has officially been added to the "Patty's Favorite Things" giveaway! Look under the title Patty's Challenge to get the details of this contest!

YOU'VE GOT A FRIEND!

Some friendships are born out of pure coincidence and this is one of them. I’ve been blessed to be able to have people drawn to me and at the same time, it’s a curse, because you have to be able to weed out the good from the bad. Friendships aren’t designed to be a flow of constant communication. At times, there is a silence for months at a time, but when you do speak again; it is as if no time has passed. Can men and women be friends? Most definitely! This guy gives me brutal honestly when I am reluctant to listen, that push needed when I’m feeling unworthy, that self-esteem when I feel less attractive. I cherish those moments when he’s been there for me, listening to me cry, and drying my tears. I watched him say vows that only a man who is truly and deeply in love can say. I shed tears of joy and pain, knowing that he’s entering a new life and I begin to have doubts that I will have those times when I can pick up the phone and spill all my problems and know that he can somehow find a way to make me feel like, everything will be alright, but I’m reminded that he truly is my bestfriend, if there is even a term and I know that somehow, he will find a way to always be there. Thank you Miliano! Patty loves you!

BELLE & CHIC

Have you ever had a friend that you can depend on 365 days a year? When her day is rough, she still finds a way to somehow make you feel like your issues are more important than her own. You can be brutally honest with her and at the same time know that she appreciates those moments of honesty. She is the complete opposite of you, but somehow there is this unbreakable bond and this cohesiveness that allows your friendship to blossom over the years. I have that girl in my life, and I thank God that she's always been there, never judging me, while giving me some spiritual guidance. She's that girlfriend you would call when your man is pissing you off. The best girl to go on a shopping date with, have drinks afterwards where the conversation seem to never end. That girl has started her own blog, www.belleandchic.com. She's that woman with the S on her chest. She juggles single motherhood, career, education, all while looking fashionably fierce. She's the young black female Martha Stewart. The woman that can show you how to make a 30 minute meal while giving you tips on how to beautify your dining room table. She can tell you where the bargains are, without leading you to flea market quality items. She's the one that put together Chatty Patty and I'm just returning the favor! Check out her blog today!

NO MORE PROPOSALS!!

Ladies, the next time you pick up a newly divorced guy and have visions of walking down the aisle with him…think again.  According to the married and divorced men, I asked if they could see themselves getting hitched again, and their response was, NO!   Ask why, "All marriages are the same, if one didn't work, the other won't either".  If you ask me, I think this is truly unfair.  This woman could have been a real jamette, horning he with all kind ah men and you come along, honest and willing to love and you have to get the short end of the stick because he's been tainted.  Unfortunately, in this situation, it seems like one apple did spoil the bunch!  Do these men have a right to feel this way?  Do you feel cheated because they feel that ALL marriages will end up with the same result…DIVORCE? Ladies and guys let me know how you feel! 

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

WHAT REALLY MATTERS?

I hear women all the time complain about not being in love and wanting a man but the things that you want out of a man may be unrealistic and just plain ridiculous.  Yesterday on Facebook a question was asked, "Would you date someone that is 25 years old and still living at home"?  I was shocked by the responses and the sad thing is that it mostly came from women.  I'm 29 years old.  At 23 years old, my god sister and I got an apartment together and when that lease was up, I moved back home, I then decided to move out on my own and stayed there for a couple of months, until my landlord found out that I was hiding my dog Cujo, and the rules were NO PETS.  With no other choices available, I decided to move back home.  My stay back home is longer than I expected but at the end of the day, I am there because…

 

#1, I can't afford to live on my own, with a car payment and all the other expenses that I've accumulated over the years.

 #2, I LOVE to travel.  Every couple of months, I'm seeking an escape to NY, Trinidad, Jamaica, or wherever the wind blows.

#3, the job that I have doesn't pay me enough money to drive a brand new car, have my own place and be able to keep up with my shopping habits and jet setting ways!

 

Does this make me irresponsible?  Does this make me a daddy's/mommy's girl?  Does this make me a girl waiting for sugar daddy to come and move me into his big condo?  NO! According to the women who responded, the majority of them refused to date a guy who was 25, and living at home.  A couple of them were willing to give it a shot depending on what his plans were on moving out of the basement and into his own place.  They didn't even mention the fact that we are living in a recession.  Some may have lost their jobs and were evicted and living on their unemployment checks.  You never know someone's situation and to prejudge someone because of their living situation is unfair.  It's the same thing that was said a couple of weeks ago, when a friend of mines wrote that ladies wouldn't give a guy the time of day if we saw him sitting on a bus stop, not knowing that the guy has a Benz in the mechanic shop and decided to take the bus home.  Living home doesn't make you less responsible than those living on their own.  I've dated guys on both ends of the spectrum and sometimes you meet a guy that has his own place, but open up his refrigerator and you will find an expired milk carton and a box of stale ass Chinese food.  They have a mattress on the floor and a television without a stand.  Love doesn't come packaged in a neat little box waiting for you to unwrap it.  It has faults, and malfunctions at times.  That very guy that is living at home could very well be saving up money to buy his first home and you missed out on a good opportunity of love because your pride allowed you to feel that you are better than someone because you're 21 and living in an apartment that you don't even own.  I know we all have our preferences in what we want in a man, but come up with a better reason.  Talk about personality, and whether he treats his mother like a queen.  Talk about his life and whether or not he's supporting his daughter that he had from a previous relationship.  Talk about his past relationships, and whether or not he did a Chris Brown on his ex girlfriend.  Talk about whether or not he has any STD's.  These are the things that matter! 

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

LEATHER FEVER!

I don't give a damn whether you live in NY or in the warmth of the Caribbean islands, EVERY woman must have a leather jacket in their wardrobe. Its an essential piece and my clothing item of the week! The jacket I'm wearing in this awful photograph is a real leather jacket, purchased at Burlington Coat Factory for about 120.00 on sale, a couple of years ago and as you can see, there are no rips, tears or discoloration. Its an investment piece and can be worn with absolutely anything! For many women, owning a real leather jacket can be out of their price range and that is why I offer some great alternatives to get the same hot look all for under $100.00!

1. Bejeweled style leather jacket, $34.80, www.forever21.com. Love the added pieces, that allows the jacket to be the focal point of the outfit.

2. Purple jacket, www.asos.com, $76.49. Who says all leather jackets have to be black.

3. Cropped jacket, www.wetseal.com, $34.50. Perfect for an outdoor look on a 70 degree day!

COASTAL SCENTS REVIEW

For a while, I was in search of an affordable way to purchase eye shadows without breaking the bank, and while looking at some make-up tutorials, I came across one make-up artist who spoke highly of Coastal Scents. So I logged on to their website and was stunned to see that they had a palette that included 88 different shades for $18.95! It seemed too good to be true, and so I began looking at only the tutorials that featured coastal scents and was impressed and so I purchased it and I can honestly say that very I'm happy! I'm no make-up artist, and don't want to become one, I was looking for something for myself that would be affordable and also work well on my skin. I've only tried a few colors so far and was satisfied with the results. I think Coastal Scents is perfect for a modern girl who wants to look great, get all the colors needed without having to spend hundreds of dollars on these expensive palettes. Check out their website at www.coastalscents.com! Also check out Miky Wils The Makeup Artist blog to see her use of Coastal Scents neutral palette...my gosh I can't wait to put in my order on Friday!!!!!!!!

NATURAL BEAUTY

Yesterday evening, I attended my best friends wedding. One of the attendees was this beautiful empress and her daughter. There is always something so breathtaking when you see a little child with her natural hair either out or braided in some nice cane row. I instantly thought that they would be perfect to feature on CP, and my dedication to natural hair beauty. I was inspired to write this piece, because I saw something that truly sadden me this weekend. Shopping at Forever 21, I saw a little child who was no older than 2 years old, with straight permed hair. I’m not here to judge, but I find it puzzling that a woman would choose to do something like that to their child’s hair at such a young age. I didn’t get my first perm until I was about 14 and I know that times have change, but that doesn’t mean that we should destroy their hair before it even gets a chance to grow and become healthy and strong. I don’t want to judge anyone’s parenting skills, but I would love to know why a woman would decide to do such a thing to a child at such a young age. I’ve seen 5 years old with sewn in weave and long braids and it looks heavy and uncomfortable, and honestly…RIDICULOUS! Its one thing to relax their hair but it’s another thing to add extensions at FIVE! I know that this is an often controversial topic, and I’m open to debate. Ladies, gents, I would love to hear from you.

CONCEALING DARK CIRCLES

Last night, on my addictive past time, makeup tutorials, I came across one that really held my interest. Since I began applying on make-up, I always secretly complained about my eyes and no matter the concealer, I never felt like it covered my dark circles. DRBrooklyn730 was able to give some great tips on how to affectively apply concealer so that it does give long lasting coverage throughout the day. Luckily she uses the same M.A.C. concealer as I do, and she used her ring finger to gently pat and roll it in the areas where needed. She then suggested that you use a cosmetic sponger, preferably the triangle shaped one, and dab it with power. I put my MK power on the cover and dabbed a little onto the sponge and gently pressed and rolled it onto the concealer. I tried it this morning and I have to say that I see a huge difference in the appearance of my under eye area. I recommend that you check out her make-up tutorials YouTube, because she gives a lot of great tips on everything from eye shadows, to lip stick choices! Try the concealer trick and tell me if you come out with the same results!

Chatty Patty http://www.therealchattypatty.com/

NEW FOLLOWERS, POST, AND BLOGS!!!!

Hey everyone...I was so looking forward to putting up some new post on CP, but my Internet service started acting like an ass and wouldn't connect. I have plenty of exciting post!!!. Thank you and welcome all my new followers...and if you don't already know, you will automatically be entered into my "Patty's Favorite Things" contest!!!!! I also added some new blog favorites...one of them is Mikywilsmakeupartist...check her out...I so LOVE her style...bglh...going on there always makes me feel so good about being a natural diva! Check back later tonight for new postings!!!!!!!!

NAKED REVIEW

First off, let me start by saying I didn't go to Naked last night, but my brother went and I was beyond pissed at what he had to tell me. My brother is a rasta and often has his locs in a turban. He went up to the door and the security refused to let him in with the turban, and asked that he takes it off. I find this appalling and insensitive to those with different religious beliefs and customs. What de ass is wrong with these people! I'm not saying its the promoters fault, but someone has to be blamed for this. My brother refused to take off his turban and decided to leave! I'm not trying to tell you where to go, but I am telling you that if you have your hair wrapped, be prepared to be told to TAKE IT OFF! I will not be supporting Naked or any party that discriminates against rastafarians, muslims or any other people that wear turbans!

PATTY'S FAVORITE THINGS GIVEAWAY!!!!!

What an exciting year it has been for me! I never thought that back in March, Chatty Patty would have grown so quickly. No it’s not a mainstream blog, but I’m so proud of my little baby and I couldn’t have done it with you! You guys are what motivate me every morning, evening and night to come up with new material to Entertain, Enlighten, and Educate. I’m just an ordinary Caribbean-American girl with the same issues, drama, heartache, and happiness that you experience. It isn’t officially the 1 year anniversary of Chatty Patty, but December will mark the ending of one chapter and the beginning of a new one in 2010!!!!! I will be turning the big 30 and I hope you guys are there to go through that transition with me! I want to take Chatty Patty to newer heights, broaden my audience and expand it to its furthest limit, which in my mind, no limit. As my gratitude to my loyal readers and followers, I will be having a Patty’s Favorite Things Contest and I won’t make it difficult. No posts to remember, no long emails to send, just follow me. Yes! Simply add yourself as a follower and you will automatically be added to a random drawing where I will have a video of me choosing the actual winner. In this Patty’s Favorite Things package, you will receive some of the products that I added on my Patty’s Items of the Week.

1. Crabtree & Evelyn Naturals Botanical Body Scrub
2. L’Oreal Nude Lip Color
3. Bic Soleil Shimmer Razor
4. Mary Kay’s Satin Lip Mask & Balm

Please check out Patty’s Items of the Week to see my reviews! The winner will be chosen on Friday, December 11^th. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to get some free items courtesy of myself. No corporate sponsorships are involved…just my own hard earned money. Good luck to everyone and in the meantime…SPREAD THE WORD!!!!!

DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL!

Lately I’ve been hearing the same reoccurring question on Facebook about how much we should tell a man about ourselves, past and present, and whether or not we should do it at all. I always talk from experience and everyone’s relationship is different from the next, but to me in never matters, because my response remains the same. THE LESS THEY KNOW, THE BETTER! I was way too honest with my man about my past relationships and the hard part is that my ex’s and I are still great friends. Sometimes, when we get into arguments, I hear it get thrown back in my face, or I hear the smart comments. I don’t think that you should tell a man anything about yourself that has nothing to do with HIM, his FRIENDS, or FAMILY. These are some of my examples as to important information that your partner needs to know. ”I would love to have sex with you, but I think you should know that I have herpes”, “Your friend Mike and I had sex one night, but we never spoke since, “I was addicted to heroine when I was 16 yrs, I’ve stopped, but I occasional dab in a little cocaine”. Not! ”I had a past relationship with the bouncer at the club” or, “I’ve had 20 sex partners”. What was in the past should be kept there. I think as women, we meet a guy and we’re so excited to enter something refreshing and new that we tend to get carried away about what we disclose about ourselves, and in the end, we end up putting our foot in our mouth. So what, you had sex with the dj at Hard Rock! If they aren’t homies, or family, then it shouldn’t matter to him. I always hear the rebuttal, “he will find out and he will leave your ass”. And your point is? If he finds out that you had a threesome with 2 women on a drunken night in Las Vegas, what does that have to do with THIS relationship? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Ladies, lets stop and take a minute to really get to know this dude. No sense in opening your files, if you’ve only been dating for a month. Meanwhile, Mr. Man is keeping EVERYTHING about his past a secret. Again, I talk from experience because I’ve been there and done that too many times to know that certain things don’t matter. It’s best to start off a new relationship on a clean slate. Leave the past behind and focus on the present. No sense in digging up old dirt to cause jealousy and mistrust. This is only my opinion! Ladies & fellas, I would love to hear from you! Leave a comment below or email at me therealchattypatty@gmail.com if you prefer to do it privately!

NATURAL FREAKS UNPLUGGED

The music industry can be quite ruthless and if you’re able to pass your 15 minutes of fame, then you’ve beaten the odds. Only the strong are able to survive, and survival takes courage, persistence, and the ability to cross life’s hurdles. Brooklyn’s Bad Boys Natural Freaks has been able to not only break barriers, but they’ve done it on their own terms, despite personal mishaps, and constant competition that goes with living in a big city like New York. Often controversial for their front-man Tony Philip aka Tony Cross, who has allowed his voice to be the key element in the success of this sound. I had the opportunity to sit down with Tony to discuss the origins of Natural Freaks, the present status of this sound and what the future holds for these talented men.

CP: How was Natural Freaks formed?

TC: I went to High School with a guy named Reny who introduced me to Marvin, who also introduced me to Ray and Neil, which was around 97. I was just finishing up high school.

CP: The name...(giggle)

TC: What about the name?

CP: Why Natural Freaks?

TC: Because we wanted to name it something catchy. It rings a bell. You begin to think all kind of crazy stuff. You know they say sex sells, and its definitely been working.

CP: Did you ever get any negative feedback from the name?

TC: Of course!

CP: Do you still get it though?

TC: Nah! At first, a lot of people were like “don’t do that, its not going to work for yall”, “Its not a good name”. It was risky, but it definitely worked.

CP: Who are the members of Natural Freaks?

TC: Myself, Marvin, Kevin. Natural Freaks Unlimited is Grayson, Ray, Neil, Big Boy, Shane, and Skinny.

CP: What makes you different from a lot of the other d.j.s? There are so many out there playing soca. What makes you stand out in the crowd?

TC: Originality! You know like, at the end of the day, a lot of people just run down hype and its not about hype. Its definitely about trying to please the crowd and trying to come with something different. I say we set we self different because we’re never scared to try something new. When somebody hesitate to play a song, we definitely going to play it. So at least they remember that this one, weird, crazy song, we played it.

CP: Music wise, you guys play everything?

TC: Everything!

CP: Soca, dancehall...

TC: Everything!

CP: When did your popularity begin?

TC: We were on GB Boatride and we got the opportunity to play in the early part of the boatride.

CP: Who were the dj’s that influenced you as you were coming up in the business?

TC: Starchild and King Papa Rocky.

CP: As far as business and personal life, how are you able to separate the two? There is a lot of djs out here right now that get mixed up with girls, and beef with other people. How are you able to just block that out and concentrate on your music?

TC: At the end of the day yuh have to know how to put the two apart. You can’t bring your personal life to work. When its time to work, work. When its your personal, its your personal. You just have to make the effort and make it happen.

CP: When you guys started, was your aim only to play music? Did you see yourself, how you are now? You guys do parties, boatrides, you have a band for Miami Carnival. Was your aim that far?

TC: Definitely not! We was just doing this for fun and then we realized that it was something that we loved doing. And then we started to say, how can we turn this into something big. How can we get our friends involved in this also? So we decided to start Natural Freaks Unlimited. Lets start an event. One event turned into two...two events turned into three and so forth.

CP: What was the first event?

TC: What was we first party boy? (Speaking to the members of NF Unlimited) Bathrobe and Timbs. Everyone came out in their bathrobes and timberlands. It was a party in the winter. It was Christmas time, we didn’t even think it would do good. It was actually one of biggest parties that Christmas. We were like “wow we really got a following and we need to do this more often”.

CP: I’m going to ask you a question, you don’t have to answer. You went through a situation this year, do you want to talk about it?

TC: (Nods his head)

CP: Okay. As far as young people trying to come up in this business, what advice can you give to them?

TC: Creep before you walk! You have to know the ins and outs of this business.

CP: At any point, do you feel like giving up?

TC: Sometimes, I get in a mood where it likes boring to me. But its my passion, I love it too much.

CP: Do you feel any pressure being the front-man of Natural Freaks?

TC: As far as pressure, not me, somebody had to do it and God chose me.

CP: You’re a very controversial figure, how are you able to manage the negative feedback that comes with being in this industry?

TC: Good publicity, bad publicity, its all publicity. For every negative thing that comes my way, there are 10 positive behind it. So it doesn’t bother me. My faith is in the lord. Once you walk in that path, talk never phases you.

CP: What is the biggest misconception that people have with Natural Freaks?

TC: That we’re stuck up. We are the coolest in the bunch. But if you don’t know us you’re gonna judge the book.

CP: Do you feel respected by your counterparts and the Brooklyn Caribbean Community?

TC: There’s a lot of respect just people don’t like to show you. But I must be doing something right to be rated as the best.

CP: If you could change anything, what would it be?

TC: Nothing,

CP: Any last words

TC: Family First.

Chatty Patty’s final thoughts:

I was quite nervous in doing this interview. I could of videotaped the interview instead of recording it and the reason being is that I’m a writer first and I wanted to allow the words of this talented dj shine through. The interview was honest and straight to the point. I felt a change in the Tony I met in 2002. There is a lot of growth and strength and it comes with professional and personal triumphs. Like Vybz Kartel, Tony Cross is the last man standing in an industry that can be very brutal, but he’s made it simple by sticking to what he knows best...being himself. Often living his life in the public eye, there are certain situations in his life that should remain private, and I respect that. The future is so big for these talented djs and I hope that I’m around to see it grow. Thank you for the opportunity for allowing me to interview you. Patty loves you!

CLINIQUE!

I've been an avid user of Clinique products for years, but after using it with no results, I decided to switch to another skin care product. Using the other product, I've been able to really learn about my skin, do my daily regime, and research products prior to usage. I've since gone back to my foundation and decided to give Clinique another try and since then, I've been satisfied with the way that my skin looks and feels. Of course with every new product, it takes a while for your skin to get accustomed to the changes, but its dealt with it pretty well. I introduce my "Item of the Week", Clinique's Dramatically Different Moisturizing Lotion & Gel. It was voted as the People's Choice from Glamour and Teen Vogue magazine as the best moisturizer. Depending on the type of skin you have you can use either one. Since I have very oily skin, the Clinique rep, recommended I use the Moisturizing Gel. I love the feel of this moisturizer as I apply it under my make-up. It leaves a smooth finish throughout the day. Its light weight and doesn't leave a heavy residue on your skin. It is retailed at $12.50 for the tube, and $24.00 for the pump. You can visit your nearest clinique counter at Macy's or log on to their website at http://www.clinique.com/. Try it out and tell me what you think!

BOOK CLUB UPDATE!

A couple of weeks ago, I decided to start a book club.  I didn't expect much, because I know that everyone's ability to take time out to read a book isn't the same, and let's be honest, reading is the last thing that many of us would want to do on our past time.  But to my surprise, I got some that were interested and so I decided to make "Push" our first book entry.  I assumed that I would have completed the book in time to watch the movie on Saturday, but it doesn't look like that will happen.  My schedule is busier that I would like to believe and I tend to make the mistake of juggling too many things at the same time.  I realized that before I send out notices and emails to people, I should make sure that everything is organized.  I would hope to do this book club in the future, but right now, time won't allow me to make it happen.  I'm sorry and I hope that when we really kick this thing off the ground, you all will join me in this journey.

Chatty Patty www.therealchattypatty.com

MEN FEEL IT TOO!

This posting is for the many men and women, like myself that are currently in a long term relationship. We've passed the honeymoon stage, meeting the parents, first trips and first fights. Some of you have even moved in together, gotten married and even had kids. I was inspired to write this post by a friend of mine, who emailed me on the fact that he felt unappreciated in his relationship. It made take a look at my own relationship and I began to wonder if my man also felt the same way. Same sex routine, the conversations are far less, you find excitement in talking to other people, and you even engage in a flirtation or two to reassure yourself that still got what it takes. All of this can easily be avoided, if we remind ourselves that the flame must continue to burn, though the candle has been lit for far too long. We have to continue to bring excitement, romance and the feeling of the early years into the relationship. In other words, “DON’T GET TOO COMFORTABLE”! Blogger, Ms. MC has listed a couple of helpful hints that will bring some spice into your relationship!

Appearance- stay polished, try new hair styles, fragrances, colors, etc…Men are very visual creatures and women pay attention to detail. A guy will appreciate the eye candy and feel like he’s with a new woman every year, lol. These things don’t have to break your bank; simple additions to your everyday look can make a big difference. Shave those legs, trade that scrunci in for a nice scarf or let your hair down and have fun with it; add some earrings; put away the flats for one day and wow him with some stilettos; even a new nail polish can add glam to your look; whiten that smile; wear a new scent and keep him crawling on your neck (I’ll be doing more articles on this topic)

Health/Fitness- You can’t promise that yourself that you’ll always be the small size that he met you in 3 years ago, but take pride in your health and fitness. You want each other around for as long as possible and you owe it to each other “through sickness and health” to try your best to stay as healthy and fit as possible. Also, To add the “connection” factor and make it more interesting…work out together…you can even add the kids in the case of a busy children-filled household. You two will feel like teenagers working out in the park or gym or even in the comfort of your own home. You can even do a little strip tease to show him your hot new moves in your hot new body. Why does he have to see great legs and hot boobs out on street or on the job…keep that body tight and healthy and embrace your beauty and he will too!

Surprises. It’s one thing to say “Hey honey, here’s this tie I bought you” and another thing to make it fun and surprise him with it….leave little notes, make a scavenger hunt out of it and finally appear at the dinner table with nothing but that tie and smile (Pretty Woman Style); or eavesdrop and pay attention to something that he/she may have said that they “wish they could get”…is it the new Madden Game coming out…is the tickets to her favorite artist coming to town next month….one small surprise gesture can create a spark that last in his/her memory for a long time…and it keep things interesting!

Take a break- if your body and mind are not rested; you can’t perform at your best. You ever seen some men and fathers who are WORN OUT…they are dragged to the ground and the same goes for most women and moms. Give your lover a free pass….that one day where they can kick back and relax and sleep in without that infinite “honey to do” list. This balance can turn your stressed out babe into a Stallion because he is mentally and physically recharged.

Bedroom Bonanaza- trade in your faded “Welcome to Bahamas 2006” t-shirt and rollers for a cute two piece pajama set…it doesn’t have to be fancy silky Victoria secret… many of your local chains like Forever 21, Target and Kohls have really cute PJ sets that give you that good girl/naughty girl nighttime look. (I’ll be doing some articles on that soon) although the rest of the house may be upside down from hectic everyday living….please give you and your man an escape by at least letting the bedroom be clean, fresh smelling and clutter free…let him feel like he’s checking into a suite when he gets home at night. Clean sheets and fluffy pillows; Eliminate the TV and video games in the bedroom…let “you” be the only gadget that he needs to play with, lol. Of course not every night will be “kinky night” but take advantage of those off-nights to listen to his day…what pissed him off, what made him laugh. Just like when you first met and never wanted to hang up the phone no matter how late it was….let the bedroom be a sacred spot for actions and words.

Get Away- whether it’s a local getaway, out of the country or even paying a sitter to take the kids and dependents for a night…you owe it to break the cycle every once in a while and CREATE an escape for yourselves. Don’t ever allow your relationship to get caught in the hamster wheel rat race of life…bills will never stop, stress will never stop, so take a break and treat yourselves every now and then. Pinching pennies? Stay tuned for future articles on how have fun without breaking the bank.

Foundation: always remember why you fell in love with that person in the first place. That smile, that laugh, the generosity, the compassion, that tenderness…whatever it may be. Make sure that you stay BEST FRIENDS FOREVER. Just like you treat your outside BFFs and protect them and please them, do the same twice over for him/her. Don’t ever forget day after day and year after year why you fell in love. Treasure it in your mind and heart and all of your actions (sexual, emotional, physical) will naturally imitate the feelings that you have for one another it will blossom based on the integrity that you have for one another. Also be supportive and be a team player; you can’t be nagging about money and the bills one minute and expect good loving the next. Good Sex and Relationship STARTS IN THE MIND; when you give your lover a relaxed, positive, supportive and stimulating mindset it will be much easier and more natural to keep the red lights flashing in the bedroom and good times rolling year after year….elaborate more on this topic…..