NO RESPECT, DISRESPECT!

Okay, now I know everyone and their ancestors saw last night’s episode of HW of Atlanta and the explosive confrontation between Sheree and her party planner, Anthony. I don’t know about you but I was more embarrassed by seeing this scene take place. Never in all my years of television have I seen such horrible display of professionalism on the part of anyone. For once, I’ve sided with Sheree, because she was never my favorite housewife, but this season has shown her in a more humble state after going through a divorce and relocation. I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with Sheree wanting to take part in the planning of her party. And like she said, “if I ask the same questions over and over again, its because I want to be up to date with what’s going on”. His behavior in that meeting was disgusting, tasteless, and a disgrace to all African American entrepreneurs trying to make it in a society that continuously gives us a fight down. How dare he disrespect this woman like that! You are getting paid to perform a service, and you should ALWAYS show you clients, RESPECT! I thought he was going to box her down in the middle of the office. What I don’t understand is why the other workers in the building did not intervene earlier? I hope he knows that his career has completely come to an END. There is no way, anyone will ever hire him to do anything, but pick up trash off the street!

WHAT'S SEX GOT TO DO WITH IT?

Something came to mind, while I watched Miami Social. George is a young, recently divorced guy, who is dating a Russian “hottie”. Their relationship is as violent as Ike & Tina and Bobby & Whitney. She lies about going to NY for the weekend and come to find out, her ass is in St. Barts on a yacht, “entertaining” guest. She is disrespectful to his friends. She even resorted to cutting up his clothing because he went out and didn’t let her know. Now what I can’t understand is why he still decides to stay with her despite the disrespect, lack of trust and the verbal and physical abuse? SEX!!!!! Can the sex in that relationship be so good, that you can turn a blind eye to all the negative aspects that consumes it? I hear stories like this from people I know. “I hate his ass, but we have the best sex, so I put up with his shit”. What’s the point! You know how many times, I thought the guy I had was the best and when you finally meet someone new, their sex is the better than the rest! Relationships have to be based more than just sex. It will only be for a timing, when that alone won’t keep you tied down anymore. You would want to spread your wings and fly!

THE HOUSEWIVES ARE BACK!

The Atlanta Housewives are back and the first episode left me with my mouth wide open.  Nene, Kim, Lisa, Sheree, and new housewife, former singer of Xscape, Kandi.  Since the premiere of the first episode, Nene and Sherine have since ended their rivalry and have now joined forces against Kim.  Her lies and two-faced behavior continues to catch up to her.  Kim has recently ended her relationship with "Big Poppa" and is doing some soul searching.  Nene has since moved into a new home and is neighbors with Lisa.  Still living the fabulous life with her husband and kids.  Lisa is in a bit of a dilemma.  Her husband is anxious to have another child.  Sheree is coming off a recent divorce and is forced to move into her new home because her previous home was foreclosed for lack of payment.  She decides to throw a party in honor of her newly single life.  New housewife Kandi is on the verge of releasing her first solo album and is happily engaged to a man with 6 kids.  Kandi's daughter is the sweetest child.  She's wise beyond her years.  The first episode surely didn't disappoint.  A verbal and near physical brawl occurred between Sherine and her event planner Anthony.  His lack of professionalism was evident in his reaction to Sheree wanting to be more involved in her own party.  I am stunned and shocked that people can get on so disgusting.  The clips of this season, will surely keep us glued to our televisions every Thursday night.  I don't have to tell anyone to watch this show, because its everyone's favorite housewives.  They are back and looking hotter than ever.  I give this show a 10 for continuing to excite us and have us anticipating what drama will be cooked up next.

REALITIES OF DIETING

I know a while back, my intention was to lose 30 pounds by October for Miami Carnival and I've failed miserably.  I haven't gained any weight, and I haven't lost any either, so I'm in limbo.  I was doing so good, waking up every morning and doing my 1 hour workout, but when I stopped, while on vacation, I never got back into the routine.  The most important thing about devoting yourself to losing weight is to be 100% committed to your goal.  Any half ass attempt will be a waste of time.  Though I still have a good amount of time left to achieve my goal weight, my problem has now become time management.  Now that I've added other activities to my daily roster, I've found it so difficult to find a way to squeeze a workout in between.  So, I'm telling myself that I will begin my regimen on Thursday, and I will keep  you all posted.  Have any of you found yourself in this difficult situation, and if so, let me now how you've managed to overcome it.

WHAT'S GOING ON?

I have to be completely honest.  I'm not sure what's going on, but I haven't received not even one comment of positivity in reference to Chatty Patty.  My contest ends on Friday and not even one entry has been submitted.  I love having contest which gives the opportunity to give back, but you have to meet me half way.  Click on the section, Patty's Challenge to see the details on this contest which will be ending this week.  Good luck!

TRIBE LAUNCH PICS

I know that this is not a carnival blog, and it will not be turned into one but mid summer is when Trinidad carnival launch season really heats up and you will see me talk about this off and on until about Ash Wednesday.  Okay, so last week, I wrote my dissatisfaction of the leaked Tribe pics of "Secrets of Silk", and I decided that I would give Tribe a bligh and wait till Saucy post the pics on www.trinidadcarnivaldiary.com.  Sunday felt like Christmas morning, cause I woke up early from my hang over the night before to get a good view of the launch pics.  Logged on to www.trinidadcarnivaldiary.com, I began clicking away at the pics and was left straining my eyes, because for some reason, most of the pictures came out dark, but I soon realized that it was the lighting on the stage that seemed to be not bright enough.  Again, I was left disappointed in Tribe's presentation.  Like others that have been die hard Island People masqueraders, this was to be the year where I would do the great migration and play mas with Tribe, but I'm left feeling unsatisfied and feeling that once again, IP will be seeing me on the road for carnival 2K10.  My choice for Tribe was "Mystery of Loulon", but a friend of mine informed me that that section is already sold out.  Not sure how true that is, since registration hasn't started as yet, but being that this is everyone's favorite, I'm not surprised.  Going back to the launch pics, again, I am disappointed to see how Tribe has failed to stick with the theme of silk.  My friend and I were talking over lunch and giving our opinion of Saturday's launch.  She has designed costumes for Poison and even Tribe, and was left dumbfounded.  The lack of silk fabric, lack of well decorated bras, the over use of features had me scratching my head.  Having a head full of features doesn't constitute a great head piece.  For the most part, many of the features were not placed right on the headpiece.  Many of the head pieces are ill fitted and will not look right on everyone's head.  So much more to talk about, but then again, it will take all day of critiquing and for those that aren't familiar with mas, it would be a bit boring for you.  So again, I am left waiting for registration to begin to see if I even get in, and waiting to see Island People's costumes and hoping that that they too wouldn't follow the same path as Tribe.  I believe that Tribe is very aware of all the negative feedback they've received and hopefully some of these sections will be redesigned or even cut.  Log on to www.trinidadcarnivaldiary.com for more information on all things carnival.

TINY & TOYA EPISODE 3

I've heard so many negative feedback on this show and I know that everyone is entitled to their opinion but I seriously LOVE "Tiny & Toya".  I know that without this show, I would of never had any kind of respect for Tiny.  I always wondered what the hell T.I. every saw in this woman, but if you clearly understood this woman's character, her devotion to her family, relationship, and friends, you would never question his love for this woman.  This was the episode in which TI began his 1 year and 1 day sentence for weapons possession.  Seeing the pain that this woman had to go through, seeing this man be sent away for this length of time and not knowing how she will handle the up coming months of his absence is heartbreaking.  What I love the most of about this show is the devotion Tiny's mother has towards her.  Unlike Frankie who wants to overshadow her daughter, Diane plays her part as mother and constant supporter to Tiny in her time of need.  The bond between this mother and daughter is so real.  Toya began to cry as she described Tiny and Diane's mother and daughter relationship.  Toya and Tiny's friendship is just as real.  There are no flaws in their bond.  They are completely devoted to one another, especially now that TI is away.  I again, am looking forward to seeing the aftermath of TI's prison sentence and how Tiny is able to handle her personal and professional life without his presence.   

LIVING OUR DREAMS

With all the things on my to do list, I didn't get a chance to write a review on Black In America 2.  Tonight I watched the last hour of part 2 when they featured Tyler Perry.  I know that everyone can take their own piece of this documentary and hopefully apply that to their own life, but the story of this great writer, director and producer really hit home.  Looking at his life, it was so similar to mine.  Not about the abusive household or growing up in proverty, but about his artistic ability and the fact that like myself, he started a journal and began writing screen plays at a young age.  Where our paths differ was that he didn't give up on his dreams, despite being homeless, facing an empty audience when he saved 14,000 to put on his first stage performance and really grinding to make his dream become a reality.  I again, realized how many YEARS I wasted, chasing worthless men, partying my life away, and focusing on all the negative aspects of my life.  Again, I realize that about 8 months from now, I will be turning 30 and it is only now that I am working towards that path of fulfilling my dreams.  Its a disappointment and I am always harder on myself, then anyone is on me, but it makes me stronger.  So much time has been wasted and I don't want to waste another moment wishing and dreaming.  Whoever said that the color of your skin is a factor in not getting ahead, then you are truly mistaken.  If we continue to live in the past and give up, then we will continue to sit in front of our televisions and wish that we had done the same thing they have done, to get to where they are today.  I'm so tired of dreaming it and not living it.  I am the female Tyler Perry, I've always been, but its up to me to make it a reality.  I'm not giving! I'm going to continue to fight for what is mine.  

RUSH TO MAS JUDGEMENT

I was excited to hear about this much buzzed about leaked photos of Tribe's 2K10 presentation of "The Secret of Silk". I thought that this would be a great opportunity for Tribe to really create something unique and refreshing, instead of the traditional beaded bra, waist band and panty mas. Unfortunately, that is exactly what I got and I made it known on Facebook to the disagreement of some of my friends. I'm not saying that the costumes aren't gorgeous, but I thought that with them having a theme as "silk", I would see some long flowing silk fabric draped along the costumes with the traditional beaded bra and panty to give it that updated look. After giving the pictures another look, I selected 3 costumes that I can so see myself wearing on Carnival Tuesday. Threads of Morocco, Charmeuse, and my die hard favorite, Mystery of Loulan. If I get into any of the sections, it would make Patty a happy camper. If not, I will look towards another band to play. There will never be a day where I will ever pay my hard earned money for a hideous costume. So I am counting down till tomorrow, when Tribe will be launching. I urge anyone who is going to Trinidad Carnival or just want to know the 411 on all things carnival, to log on to www.trinidadcarnivaldiary.com. I know that Saucy's pics of Tribe's presentation will be great and I can finally narrow my choices. My fingers will be crossed from now till I actually register. Wish me luck! Carnival fever in the air!!!!!!

PUBLIC DISPLAY OF A THONG

This past weekend, my sister, cousin, and I went to Wet Willies to have some drinks and the usual all girl chatting. Approaching the bar, it felt more like a resurrection of Freaknic! There were a couple of celebs in attendance looking to be seen in which we quickly walked past their tired ass and headed upstairs. I wasn’t prepared for the site I was destined to see as we entered the outside balcony. Sitting down at one of the tables was a woman who clearly raised her dress up to her chest and decided that it was more convenient for her to expose her thong. The worst part was that she was sitting down with one leg east and the other one west. Ass cheeks spread along with the other parts of the body that should be left to the imagination. She clearly got what she was aiming for, ATTENTION! Men were passing by and gawking at her and snapping pictures. I shook my head in disgust and said to my sister and cousin, “this is why men have NO respect for women”. I know those women are free to do whatever they want with their bodies, but shit like this really gets to me! We women cry foul play when a man disrespects us in public and yet all our ass and breast is exposed for the public to see. I’m not saying that a man has a right to disrespect us because of what we wear, but if you are sitting down on a chair with your legs spread apart and a thong on, then you are asking of the rude comments and hollering on the streets. Granted this was South Beach and she probably came for a swim, but come on! Where is the class? Where is the self-respect?

RACHEL ZOE

Celebrity stylist to the stars Rachel Zoe is returning to Bravo with the second season of her hit reality show, “Rachel from A to Zoe”. This was one of my favorite shows on this network besides “Project Runway” that has now been moved to Lifetime. Rachel, eat, sleeps, and breaths fashion! She understands fashion and studies it. Despite her very small frame, this woman has a great sense of fashion, especially when it comes to vintage wear and the bohemian sheek look, which has been emulated by Nicole Ritchie and Mischa Barton. I’m looking forward to seeing where she is professionally and personally. Last season, your business was interfering in her marriage and I hope she finds a way to balance the two. She had to deal with the cat fighting of 2 of her assistance, one being there from the start, and the other now entering. The old assistant was getting on my damn nerves! I especially am looking forward to seeing the newest fashion trends, vintage finds, and accessories that she so famously wears. The new season will be premiering on August 25th at 10 pm on Bravo!

NO SANTA CLAUSE HERE!

Every family for the most part has a couple of members that don’t realize that our bodies weren’t made to insert a debit or credit card. Money doesn’t come out of our asses! They call you only when it’s convenient for them and expect you to ALWAYS be able to do things for them. I am a very giving person, and I don’t expect anything in return, but what pisses me off highly is the fact that they like to take advantage of your kindness and when you aren’t able to do certain things for them, they more vex than you. People I ask you to stop this type of behavior NOW! For a person like me that is use to being the giver, it’s hard to break out of this disgusting habit, but you don’t realize that you are hurting yourself more, while they are reaping the benefits of your generosity. I recently reached a financial boiling point where I realize that my funds were almost non existent and I couldn’t depend on anyone but my parents to get me out of this black hole. I analyzed my situation and realized that I was allowing others to take from me. Even though I couldn’t afford to help them out, I would always find a way to get what they needed. I can’t do this any longer, especially when I know that for the most part, these people don’t give a shit about me. You can’t depend on them for financial support, much less emotional. When your back is against the wall, they are no where to be found. I know that New Years was months ago, but I decided that from last week, I was putting an end to this Santa Clause behavior I’ve been carrying on with for too many years. So I’m taking the initial step to let everyone know that I can no longer, help them financially for any reason at this point. Patty comes first for once, and I have to get my shit together. If you truly love me, then you can understand my position and be that support system that I need, at this time. If you want to get vex and tell me all kind of shit, because you can’t handle the truth, then I know that we will have to part ways. Your number will be deleted and all communication will come to an end. Hopefully I wouldn’t have to resort to locking off anyone and that everyone will understand. Folks, let me hear from you, because I know this problem is universal! Have you been in my situation, and if so, how were you able to handle it?

GUIDE TO A WEEKEND GETAWAY!

Summer is near an end but it’s not too late to take advantage of the heat and plan a weekend getaway. The economy is currently, shitty, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t make the most of pennies in order to have life long memories of fun! To have an all girl/guy getaway, you must be willing to have a group of people that are interested in getting away and spending money. Too many times, I hear stories of men and women who would love to travel, but decide not to, because their friends aren’t interested. You sit there and depend on them for the rest of your life, and see how far it will take you. Set up a meeting where everyone can decide on the destinations they are interesting in going to. This meeting can become a debate, because everyone will have their own choices, but hopefully you can all come to some kind of an agreement. Once you’ve decided on your location, you have to choose someone that will be in charge of booking the flight and hotel arrangements. Make sure this person is responsible, trustworthy and can handle the task at hand. Whether you go through a certified travel agency or the World Wide Web, do your research. Do a search of all the great restaurants, tourist attractions, and other fun activities that this city has to offer. Set a budget! If you are only working with $300.00 per person, it makes absolutely no sense in trying to travel to Paris! Work with what you are able to spend. Once the flight and hotel arrangements have been booked and paid for, then it is time to starting shopping for those sexy summer outfits. Don’t go overboard, if you know that you are only spending 3 days in 2 nights. Budget well so that you have lots to spend when you reach your destination. Now that everything is set, enjoy your weekend get away, and don’t forget to bring your camera!

BLOOD IN HER EYE

You’ve seen your mom with blood in her eye at the hands of a man who she thought, showed her true love. She stayed devoted to him for the sake of the kids, but she didn’t realize that she was hurting them more than she was hurting herself. You cried in the corner holding your ears to drown out the sound of the blows to her flesh and the waling from her voice. You squeezed your eyelids tightly to blind yourself from your reality. You prayed to God that one day, your mom wouldn’t have to feel this pain anymore. You prayed that one day somehow she can finally get the strength to leave. You’ve seen these images too many times in your life and it should only make you realize that this is wrong. No one and I mean no one deserves to get beaten by anyone. Yes you endured licks from your parents by the weapon of choice, a belt, but blood was never coming from your eyes. As you grew older, you never forgot your past and the images that stayed within. Most would have avoided ever getting themselves into a situation where a fist is their only resort, but you haven’t learned. You chose to follow the same path as your step-father and beat her like he beat your mom. Blood in her eye! She cried humiliated, and in pain. She still loves you and wishes it didn’t happen, but wise words told her to walk the other way. You never deserved her love. As your career begins a downward spiral, you want to publicly apologize for something you should of done months ago. Your past has NOTHING to do with your present and I am sick and tired of hearing this same tired excuse! I forgive you, if your words are really true, but it’s not up to me to judge, because I have my fair share of bad deeds. We all must lie in our own shame and find a way to overcome it so that the next generation doesn’t repeat the mistakes of our past. May God be with you!

READING IS FUNDAMENTAL

This weekend, I wanted to do a review on one of my favorite bookstores in Miami, Afro Books &  Things.  Located in the heart of Liberty City, this bookstore had a variety of novels, fact and fiction from African American writers and African American history.  Arriving at the location, I was disappointed to find out that the store was not only closed, but completely shut down.  So I went on my google search to find another book store or even a library that would carry a vast majority of African American books and so I came across the African American Research Library and Cultural Center.  Located at 2650 Sistrunk Blvd, Ft Lauderdale, FL.  Not only am I saving money by checking out a book instead of purchasing it, but I loved the many different titles and books that I never knew existed.  I know that this is unlike any other location I've done a review on thus far, but I thought it was needed, because I realize the lack of people I know that actually read a book.  Give someone a US Weekly or Vogue, and they will read cover to cover.  I think its so important that as adults, we must set a better example for our children and younger siblings.  Reading enables a person to speak well, write well, and gain more knowledge that you aren't being taught in school.  Whether you check out the African American Research Library & Cultural Center or any other bookstore, please don't hesitate, to grab a book and get reacquainted.  Reading is fundamental!  

GUESS WHO LOVES YOU MORE?

I had to add Raheem DeVaughn's song "Guess Who Loves You More" on my play list, because of its lyrical content, old school soul and the fact that I saw him perform live!  The sad truth is that the one who loves you more isn't always the one that's chosen.  You give someone so much of yourself, only to be unappreciated, taken advantaged of, and ultimately rejected.  People are selfish and feelings aren't really that important anyone.  They give hidden messages, and will not come right out and say "leave me the f--k alone"!  So we continue to play the cat and mouse game hoping that somehow they will come around, but they don't and yet more time is wasted and nothing ever changes.  When "D" Day finally approaches, we are left scratching our heads and asking ourselves why and begin placing blame.  But I'm here today to say that the blame is on ourselves.  Once we allow ANYONE to make style on us, then we've completely lost control of our own lives.  I spoke to my best friend who recently turned 30 and says that she has never been this happy in her life.  Listening in amazement and wanting the same for myself, I began to really take another look at my life and realized that I have to make changes in order to satisfy myself.  I'm so tired of making sure that everyone around me is happy while I try to grasp what's left for myself.  Meanwhile I'm unappreciated, and feeling like I lost a part of me.   Shame on me!  I refuse to place blame on anyone, because I should of made sure that I was put first.  If someone loves you, they will love you unconditionally.  Your feelings will be respected and your love will be cherished.  We continue to question love and if it exist anymore.  I say yes it does!  First of all, how can we expect love if we don't love ourselves?  How can we find love if we continue to date the same type of person, knowing it will lead you down the same path?  You need to broaden your mental state and repair the damages that we fail to see.  No one is going to love you better than yourself.  So to answer Raheem's question, "only I can love me more"!  I love me more to know that there is so much life to live.  I love me more to realize that I will never let anyone to hold me back in life.  I love me more to know that love is unconditional and holds no boundaries.  Love is to be believed and not doubted!

THE GREAT MIGRATION!

Since I started playing mas in Trinidad, I have been an Island People masquerader and loved every moment of it.  The costumes appealed to me and I can't forget about the road experience, but I must be honest too.  Last year wasn't my favorite year and though many people have publicly expressed their dissatisfaction, since they launched in 2006, I never had any negative things to say until 2009.  For carnival 2k10, I decided that I will join my cousins as they migrate to Tribe.  Tribe's 2k10 presentation "Secrets of Silk" will be launched on July 25th.  For the most part, their costumes are beautiful and you rarely hear any negative feedback on their road experience.  What bothers me is the over crowdedness in the band itself.  People that have been die hard "Tribers" have voice their concerns in hopes that they will limit the amount of masqueraders.  I for one do hope they same.  There is nothing worse then being elbow to elbow with a fellow masquerader while you play your mas.  Check out, www.trinidadcarnivaldiary.com, the only carnival blog where you can find everything and anything on Trinidad Carnival and any other carnival around the world!

REMINDER!

Just a reminder that I am having a "I Love Chatty Patty" contest where you can win either a facial at the Aveda Spa or "Love Your Feet Gift Set" from Carol's Daughter. You simply have to send me an email at therealchattypatty@gmail.com telling me how much you like Chatty Patty and what you would like to see in the future. We've only just begun and I would love to hear from you. I will simply choose the one I like best and the winner will be chosen on August 1st. The last day to send entries will be on Friday, July 31st at 11:59 pm. International entries are accepted too, but you can only win the Carol's Daughter gift set. There are no corporate sponsorships and free handouts. Just my own money and a "thank you" to all the support you have given me since we've launched. So, don't be left out of this great opportunity.

NO MORE GOOD MORNINGS

Let me tell you something, some of these grown ass people should be ashamed of their blasted self! I will come to work in the morning and go in the break room and they will walk in and NEVER say a good morning and mind you, they are standing right next to me. I use to be the bigger person and say “good morning”, and many of them wouldn’t even respond. So I decided that from now on will be “NO MORE GOOD MORNINGS” from me from those that continue with this disgusting behavior. If someone from my workplace actually comes across my blog and sees this, I wouldn’t even feel threatened, because they need to see how inappropriate it is to walk in a room and not greet someone. I don’t know how they were raised, but where I was raised, you ALWAYS said those 2 words, no matter if you liked the person or not. I know many of you can agree with my experience and I hope that you can follow me and begin to mentally tell these people to fuck off!

AVEDA MOISTURIZER

Many women are unaware of the importance of moisturizing their face, daily.  And it wasn't until I began using Mary Kay products, that I realized that I needed to do this for the upkeep of my skin and to maintain its natural beauty.  I've tried many moisturizers that often left my face feeling oily.  I have naturally oily skin and the last thing I need is to add even more.  It wasn't until my visit to the Aveda Spa, that I was introduced to one of their products and decided to try it out.  I began using Tourmaline Charged Protecting Lotion with SPF15/Oil Free Moisturizing that I finally realized that I found something that I can work with.  I love this product because it feels so natural.  My face doesn't look shiny and it protects me against the rays at the same time.  Sadly I don't remember how much I paid but I know it was somewhere in the 20's.  You can purchase it at any Aveda Spa or online at www.aveda.com.  

FAME

I'm sitting in my room watching TV and see the commercial for the remake of one of my favorite movies of all time "Fame".  The commercial alone was enough to make me vomit all over myself.  I don't know about you, but I'm so damn tired of these studios putting a shit load of money to remake a classic and when they do, its absolutely nothing like the original.  Why the hell can they leave the blasted shit alone.  Sorry if I sound pissed off, but I am.  This was a classic movie of inner city kids going to a performing arts school, and dealing with the hardships of life while trying to become famous.  The acting was superb, the music was legendary and I think is should NEVER be redone.  If you want the kids of today to recognize such great films, then give them the damn DVD, don't remake it!  Such movies as Incredible Hulk, GI Joe, and even Transformers, can NEVER get a cent of my money.  I refuse to support this overhaul of digitally enhanced graphics, over paid no talented actors and all the shit that they call a block buster.  Next thing you know, they will remake Mahogany and have Beyonce or Ciara star as Diana Ross!  So in memory of this great film and the late Gene Anthony Ray I will dust off my VCR, and pop in my Fame video cassette on Friday and remember the times when movies were worth paying that $7.00 for and the bootleggers on the corner were non existent.

TINY & TOYA EPISODE 2

I only saw the last 15 minutes of episode 2 of Tiny & Toya and it was enough for me to be able to write a new post.  Its clear that from the premiere episode of this series, Tiny is caught between wanting to rekindle her musical past and being the ride or die chick for her man TI.  I can understand what TI's facing and that he is facing 1 year in prison but his jealousy and insecurities are so obvious.  I just feel that this woman has absolutely no life besides her family and her friendship with Toya.  I just can't understand why he would feel that need to stifle her career.  She looks so unhappy.  Where would a woman of her stature go.  She's devoted to her relationship and her family and yet he feels the need to keep tabs on her whereabouts.  Tiny needs to get off of her ass and realize that life is passing her by.  It makes absolutely no sense in putting your own life on hold, in order to please anyone.  We've all been victim to this time of behavior.  I speak from experience when I say, your only wasting time.  If he truly loves you, he will support you in anyway possible.  Yes, it may put a strain on the relationship, but if its a healthy one, God will find a way to see it through.  I am looking forward to seeing next weeks episode and to see how Tiny will make a name for herself, now that TI is gone.

MIAMI SOCIAL REVIEW

Now you know your girl Patty had to tune in to the premier of Miami Social.  When I first heard about this new series on Bravo, I was disappointed to see that yet again, there were no brown people within the cast of fabulousity, but I didn't want to be bias and decided to give the show a chance.  This show is based on the lives of  7 friends who live these fabulous lives that we all want to live in the hottest city in the world, Miami.  Katrina, Ariel, Maria, George, Hardy, Sorah, and Michael, make up this cast of 30 something year olds, doing the damn thing in the sexiest city in the world.  Off the bat,  I drew towards Maria.  She's a single mother who is a fashion photographer and can I say that if I were gay, she would seriously get it.  She's strong, confident, and is certainly a guys girl.  Katrina is the married real estate agent, that puts work in front of everything, including her marriage, which has suddenly come to an end.  I personally refuse to allow my work to take the lead over my personal life, and I feel that her independence will eventually be her downfall. Ariel and Michael are the too gay cast members, one being a fashion producer, the other being a popular journalist.  Sorah and George are the ex husband and wife team.  He cheated and so she packed up her shit and left.  I love these frenemies.  Though they are no longer together, you see the tight knit bond that the 2 of them share, and its good to see that when one is in turmoil, they can depend on one another for comfort.  Hopefully Sorah won't allow George's relationship drama to bring a wedge in her new relationship.  Hardy is the big promoter and the it guy on South Beach.  For some reason, his face is so recognizable and I'm trying to figure out if he was ever on reality show.  Maybe I saw him on South Beach or something.  Well, he has been in relationship with his girlfriend for 6 years and its obvious that she wants to take the relationship to another level, and its even more obvious that his lifestyle isn't ready for him to become daddy.  She is jealous and is in need of love, we will have to see if she is able to hang in through the tough times in hopes of getting what she wants.  Overall, I really like this new show.  It isn't cheesy like some of the other reality shows out there.  Miami being the back drop of this series doesn't hurt its appeal.  Somehow, looking at it, I kind of got motivated to either go back in the gym or to get out of my working environment in hopes that my journalistic skills get take me to another level.  Again, I'm still disappointed that there weren't at least one black person, it would of broaden the audience.  Another draw back is that it seems like the show will only be based on South Beach, which isn't the REAL Miami.  I do recommend that you all take a look at it and give it a chance. You make find it as interesting as I did.  Overall, I will give the show a 81/2, because of its lack of racial diversity.  

I LOVE CHATTY PATTY CONTEST

I need to know from everyone out there, how much you "LOVE Chatty Patty"! I'm giving you this opportunity to email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com with your personal testimonials of your experience with this blog. I would love to hear your positive feedback and what you would like to see on Chatty Patty in the future. All the entries must be received by July 31st at 11:59 pm eastern standard time. I will personally pick the one that I love the best. The winner will receive a choice of either a Facial at Aveda Spa or the "Love Your Feet" set from Carol's Daughter. Either prize would be a great item to pamper yourself on those often stressful days. Your testimonials and others will be featured on my blog at the ending of the contest, of course with your consent. So make it personal, make it about you!

5000!!!!

We did it!!!!!!!!  Yepeee!!!!!!!!  Details on "Patty's Favorite Things" offer, will be available later on today!  Thank you for your continuous support.  Patty loves you!

LYING TO LOVE

Lets be completely honest with ourselves.  How many of us meet a guy and he's completely honest about not wanting to be in a relationship and though we want the opposite, we lie and say "me too"?  Are we not being truthful with our wants in fear that we will lose him?  Are we lying in hopes that in due time, he will eventually want the same?  

WE'VE ONLY JUST BEGUN!

We are almost there...we are approaching 5,000 views! This couldn't have happened without your support. So as we approach another milestone on Chatty Patty, will be having another contest. The prize will feature some of my favorite things. It could be a gift card, spa treatment, or any of the things that I have featured on this blog. Details will be listed once we hit the 5,000 mark, so in the meantime, continue to spread the word. Patty loves you!

AVEEDA UPDATE!

This morning, I went for another facial at Aveeda Spa.  I never leave there disappointed!  I felt more relaxed than ever, and I can see the difference in my appearance and how my face looks without make-up.  I'm looking forward to returning again at the end of the month and this time, I will be incorporating the enbrightment facial to lighten the dark marks left from my acne scars.  Hopefully if my funds are looking right, I will make an appointment to get a pedicure, since I heard some great feedback on their work.  I was interested in knowing when they will begin doing full body massages, and I was told that it will begin on August 1st.  Yipee!!!  I'm so excited for that, since I haven't gotten a massage since my Red Door experience.  So ladies, log on to www.aveda.com to set up your next appointment.  You will not be disappointed.

FRUSTRATED & FED UP

Last week, I told a friend of mines, who had recently been laid off that, “I envy you”. “I know it’s a selfish thing to say, but I wish I were laid off”. Many of you know how it feels to work at a job you hate! You’re overworked and underpaid and you don’t want to complain, but holding it inside wouldn’t make the feeling go away. I didn’t always feel this way about my job, with the layoffs, we began to get an overhaul of work and it’s beginning to be too much for me to handle. My stress level is at an extreme high and continuing to be in this environment will make it worse. I was once laid off back in 08 and at first, it was hard to deal with, but then I began to enjoy it. I was able to travel and not think about shortening my trip in order rush back to work. I didn’t have to deal with any fake a** co-workers, and I was able to focus on school and the future ahead of me. When I was asked to return, I accepted it only because I had plans and I couldn’t do it without a working paycheck. But now I’m back to feeling unappreciated and uninspired. This blog gives me the hope of a better tomorrow, but it also gives me a fear at times, of not knowing if it till will take me anywhere. So I continue to wish I was laid off and I continue to blog at 1 and 2 in the morning, believing that it can lead me to what makes me happy, freelance writing. I apologize, if this post is all over the place, but that is where my thoughts are at this present moment. Love you!

SOMEDAY

Close your eyes and think back to when you were 13.  Think back to a time when you weren't the popular girl in school or when your first crush didn't even know you were alive.  Your breast didn't begin to bloom, but that didn't stop the acne from playing dot to dot on your face.  Your mom told you, you were too young to get a perm like the other girls and so you were forced to walk the halls in the cane row that your mom attempted to do the night before.  You would cry at night and wish on every falling star that this guy would someday realize how special you were and would give you at least 5 minutes of his time.  You never felt good enough and when you dreamt, you would imagine being someone that you knew you could never become.  Time and time again, you tried to build up the courage to say those words, and every time you tried, you were left disappointed, when his eyes glazed upon your friend.  Time heels all wounds and it has.  Years later, you become that woman.  Breast are bigger than imagined, you hair finally got permed and you realized that it wasn't what is was cracked up to be.  The acne disappeared over time and you gained the confidence you lacked as a child.  By chance, you meet again.  This time, there weren't any failed attempts, but this time, he was doing all the work.  He was the one that realized that the little girl he never cared to see, has become this beautiful woman.  But you were always beautiful, unfortunately, it took years for him to realize.  He wants you.  He wants you real bad!  You exchanged numbers and planned to meet again, but what he didn't know was that you lied.  You never planned to see him again.  He was a distant memory.  Someone you wanted, and could never have and now that you can, you realize he was never worth it.  Someday has come and now its gone.

MIAMI SPA MONTH

I’m not sure if many of you are aware, but the month of July is Miami Spa Month. Driving down South Beach, the banners were flying high on every street corner and so I checked out their website to see which spas were participating in this month’s long event. Many of the spas listed are the high end locations that I can’t afford, but clicking on the link, you see that they are offering great deals. Most are offering 2 services, such as a massage and facial, for the price of one, $99.00! This does not include tax and gratuity, but honestly, you can’t beat that. You’ve seen my reviews on Red Door and Aveda and if I were to combine the price of a facial and massage, I would be looking at spending a little over $150.00 for these services. I am trying to schedule an appointment to take advantage of this offer. It is only available until July 31st. Check out the website, http://www.miamispamonth.com/ for more details.

A SLACKERS CONFESSION

I have to be honest with you all; I’ve been slacking off with my workout routine. It has suddenly become non existent. Since I returned from Trinidad, I haven’t had the energy or the time to go to the gym. Okay, I may be doing my usual procrastination, but for some reason, my energy is gone! It’s not my iron, because I did some blood work on my emergency room visit and for the first time in years, I’m not anemic. Maybe it’s my job. I have been under tremendous stress with the overhaul of work and being completely uninspired when I get home. My goal was to lose 30 pounds by October so I can look sexy in my costume, and with us being in July, it seems that if I want to reach that goal, I better get back on track. The good news is that I haven’t gained any weight. I still have to lose 20 more pounds. People, I need your words of wisdom! Maybe I need to have the picture of myself in the Island People costume, blown up and wallpapered to my cubicle. Lord knows that I despise my appearance on Carnival Monday and Tuesday and the flashbacks of squeezing in my belly for the many hours I played mas. Patty needs you!

FALLEN SOCA ANGEL

On December 19th 2004, anyone who has ever been a fan of soca music, can remember where they were and what they were doing when you found out that soca star Onika Bostic passed away from injuries sustained in a car accident.  Onika was like our Aaliyah!  She was on the verge of becoming one of the greatest female singers of soca music, but God had other plans.  Her single "All Is Yours" was becoming a major hit for Trinidad carnival 2005.  She was the only female singer of the popular soca band, Burning Flames.  She had hit songs such as; Mash It Up and Mud Dung.  Her stage presence was unlike other female artist.  While the other women wore outfits that blended with the crowd.  Onika stood out with her 4 inch heels, low cut blouses, and hip hugging pants.  Her signature multicolored dread locs made her even more memorable.  I will never forget the year I brought out my own band for Miami Carnival.  When we were crossing the stage, Onika graced us with her presence by singing "Mash It Up" for my masqueraders without even asking for a cent in return.  She's forever in my heart, and her music and legacy will live on.  We miss you Onika!

FACING THE UNKNOWN

When questioned about my fear, I will quickly respond by saying DEATH!  It has never changed, and I'm not sure when I will come to terms with death.  Not even the death of my brother, cousins and close friends have made me any more comfortable with talking about dying.  I remember when I first realized that one day, we will all be buried 6 feet under is when I saw the series premiere of "America's Most Wanted".  Seeing John Walsh talk about the death of his son and how that unfortunate event made him realize that he had to make it his mission of capturing the evil people that walk this earth.  Seeing the reinactment of these crimes made me realize that we all must face death.  Not knowing when that time will be is the most scariest part of all.  I can be blogging tonight and not wake up in the morning to do another.  I could be planning my 30th birthday extravaganza and not know if I will be around to celebrate it.  I could be planning on having a child and not know if I will be around to see his/her take its first steps.  This is what frightens me.  The countdown is upon us and only God knows when our time on has expired.  What also frightens me is not know if my loved ones will know who I am if I ever go to heaven.  I've done so many bad things, and I wonder if God has forgiven me enough so that I may enter those golden gates.  I don't know if it was my lack of going to church or if its my age that makes me feel this way.  I've heard it all and I know that many of you may say that you have to pray and all this sort of stuff, but that doesn't help me.  I seriously cry at night thinking about my funeral and people saying kind things while having ill feelings about me.  I cry not knowing what I'm facing and if I will continue to struggle financially and spiritually.  I cry because I want my parents and my sister and brother to be with me forever.  I know I want so much and the truth is that it is not meant to be.  Looking at Michael's memorial has brought up these images of me dying or these images of going to yet another funeral.  I want so bad to come to terms with dying and I pray that with age, I will no longer be afraid.  

SHAME ON YOU 99 JAMZ

So this morning, on my way to work, I usually listen to Ricky Smiley’s show. They were playing Michael’s “Remember The Times” and I was happily singing along and reminiscing on the good times, when suddenly they mixed the song with Lil Wayne’s “I Just Want To F**k Every Girl In The World”. I quickly turned that s**t off in disgust. On a day like today when family, friends and fans from all over the world would be grieving the lost of an icon, 99 Jamz has the balls to play this rubbish! This is the reason why our music is quickly becoming extinct, why young America is for the most part, out of control and in need to real LOVE. I’m not talking about the love that tells you that I want to f**k you and your best friend too! The lyrical content of music today is so bombarded with exploiting our young black women and showing them that we have to be superficial in order to be loved. I know I’m rambling off topic, but this “mix” of good music and s**t is really getting to me. So I end with a big SHAME ON YOU to 99 Jamz, for all the BS you’ve been playing since the death of Michael Jackson. Power 96 did a whole afternoon of tribute to this man, while you all completely chose to honor the one hit wonders of today! You should be ashamed!

CASSIE'S ALL WHITE DRESS

I'm not usually a fan of Cassie, but I think that she hit it on the nail with this all white dress at P Diddy's All White Party over the weekend.  I especially love the gold strappy sandal which gave the ensemble a touch of class.  This is the perfect outfit for those hot summer gatherings.  Sexy and stylist!  I'm still trying to warm up to the idea of her new punk rock hairdo. What do you think of this look?  Did Cassie finally get it, or is she still trying to play catch up?

SOLANGE'S STYLE

I love the fact that Beyonce’s little sis, Solange is experimenting with fashion, but sometimes, I just think she goes a little too far. I loved the blazer, white tee, and black and white tights, but when you combine it together and add the neo pink patent leather pumps, then I’m left shaking my head. Tell me what you think of this look. Did she hit the mark, or is she a train wreck waiting to happen?

PUMP IT UP!

EVERY woman must have a pair of pumps in their wardrobe! Whether they are peep toe, like Beyonce’s, or wedged like Nicole Richie’s, this item is an essential piece of footwear needed to look absolutely FABULOUS! It’s hard to imagine that pompes (the original term) in the1500’s; it were initially worn by men, but without heels! Now they come in all different heights, shapes and designs. Whether you wear pumps with a hot sequined number or casually with a pair of True Religion jeans and a wife beater, it is a definite item needed in every woman’s closet.

BLOG BLAST!!!!!!!

I happened to come across 2 blogs from one of my faithful followers of Chatty Patty. Clivia is a true carnival lover and she expresses that in her blog “There’s a Brown Girl in the Ring”. All the information you need to know on Miami Carnival will be featured on this site www.kaiserball.blogspot.com. She also has “Clivia Writes” at www.cliviawrites.blogspot.com, for expressing her more personal side. I especially love her poetry. Check these 2 sites out and show my girl some love!

ITS OUR ANNIVERSARY

This weekend, I celebrated my 4 year anniversary with my better half.  Its always special to me when I hit that milestone, because no one ever thought that we would be together to this day, not even ourselves.  Love is a challenge and anyone that says that it will be a walk in the park was clearly mistaken.  Its a compromise and a sacrifice that we make when we devote ourselves to that loved one.  There are no clear cut answers on how to make your relationship survive, because the responses will vary.  The most important suggestion I can tell my readers is to always be true to yourself.  Never allow anyone to define who you are.  Love yourself, cause no one else will do it for you!

SHOP THERAPY

I know its been a while since I've written anything on this blog, but I did some shopping over the weekend.  I probably spent more money than I could afford to spend, but at the end of the day I was extremely happy with my purchases.  Many stores had outrageous sales this weekend, including my favorite, DSW.  A woman can never have too many shoes!  For the first time, I started thinking more clearly about the items I choose to purchase.  Not necessarily the amount, but the longevity and the versatility of the item.  I'm a brown girl and its only natural for me to gravitate towards anything in those tones, but I realized I've been slacking with my appearance and I thought that a change of color is just what I needed to spice up my wardrobe.  My lack of accessories is also very relevant.   A friend of mine also made a suggestion of buying an accessory on each shopping trip.  So in the upcoming weeks, I will be posting some fashion tips and must haves for every woman's wardrobe.