BEYONCE CONCERT REVIEW

Last night, I went to see the queen DIVA herself, Beyonce! It took place at the Bank Atlantic center. The media was speculating that her concert wasn’t sold out, and that is far from the truth. I didn’t even see an empty seat in the arena. I didn’t get to see the opening act. I got my food and sat down just in time for Beyonce to perform. I had great seats and was able to see her face without looking at the big screen. She started off with “Crazy in Love” and she wore this gorgeous gold sequined body suit. She was accompanied by her all female band. Beyonce looks even more flawless in person than she does on television. She had male and female dancers on stage too. She sung hits after hits. Half way through her performance, she had an imposter dance on this platform in the middle of the arena as concert goers preceded towards it. As we looked up, Beyonce was strapped high up as “Baby Boy” began to play. This was the perfect opportunity for me to take pics, unfortunately, I failed to charge my camera battery, and so I was w/o great pics. Beyonce landed on the platform, and began to dance and sing. She posed for pics, touched everyone’s hand. She even picked up a guys Atlanta hat, placed it on her head while she performed “Upgrade”. But the highlight of the show came when a big screen displayed amateur videos of fans dancing to “Put A Ring On It”. She began to sing the song and at the end, she called out a guy’s name. She gave the guy the mike, he stated “So you said I should put a ring on it”, he got down on one knee and proposed to his girlfriend in the middle of the concert. Let me tell you, there wasn’t a dry eye in the audience. What put the icing on the cake is when she belted out “Halo”. I began to cry uncontrollable. It was the perfect ending to the show. I’m not a fanatic like my sister, but I have to give respect where respect is due. Beyonce put on a phenomenal show! There is NO female artist out right now, that can sing live, dance and wear 4-5 inch heels at the same time! She deserves the respect and I wish that many of her critics would stop hating. I rate this concert as an A+!!!!! For many that missed the show, please don’t do it again, it was worth every cent and more. Next stop…Maxwell & Chrisette Michelle!

THE FORGOTTEN SUPREME!

Not sure if any of you have the channel TV One, but while the BET Awards were going on, TV One did a new episode of Unsung that featured Florence “Flo” Ballard. She was a former member of The Supremes and was replaced by Cindy Songbird. She became an alcoholic and near poverty before dying in 1976 of coronary thrombosis. The movie Dreamgirls was loosely based on the story of the Supremes and Jennifer’s role was similar to the life of Florence, but unfortunately it didn’t have a happy ending. For Supreme’s fans like myself, this is a great homage to the forgotten woman. I Tivo’d it last night and wasn’t able to see it. It will be showing again on Thursday, at 10:00 pm. Check it out!

STRESS!!!

On Friday, I ended up in the emergency room. I was having sharp pains in my chest and didn’t want the take the risk with my health. So I left work early and drove myself to the hospital. My bestie, sister and my man was there for emotional support while they took x-rays, blood work and inserted an IV. The entire tests came back fine, and the only thing he told me is that the pains that I was feeling was due to STRESS! Not surprisingly, with all that I was going through. Work, school, and mine and other people’s personal lives became too much for me to handle, so I was told to get plenty rest over the weekend, in which I did. I haven’t slept like that in years! I feel like a new woman. I’m trying to handle everything in my life and not overwhelm myself with so many things. I have to learn that other people’s problems are not my own. I won’t turn my back on anyone, but I have to learn not to take it on as if it’s my own. I’m just thankful that it wasn’t anything serious and that I can now focus on what’s important and not sweat the small stuff. Thank you to everyone who shared their concerns. Patty’s a strong girl!

BET AWARDS REVIEW

Last night was BET’s 8th Annual music awards. After many years of failed attempts to compete against its competitors, I have to say that they finally were able to amaze me with the fantastic show they put on last night. With Michael’s death, everything was revamped and switched in order to honor all that he has done especially for black musicians. Having Jamie Fox as host, was the perfect choice. I know that sometimes, he tends to get carried away with his comedy routine, but he did it with class. I will start off with what I LOVED. Neyo’s performances were one to be remembered. I am a big fan of his music and it was no surprise to me that he was able to pay homage to Michael in such a superb way. I loved the fact that BET is honoring humanitarians like Alicia Keys and Wyclef. Alicia is such a beautiful soul and it’s great to see young women like her giving back, not only in the US but internationally. Before Ciara, and Beyonce, there was Monica. Monica was so great! Seeing her onstage singing with Keyshia Cole, I almost forgot that it wasn’t even her song. She completely outshined KC and let the world know that she was back and ready to give us some of those classic R&B songs from the 90’s. I am looking forward to hearing to new music. Though Jamie Fox was a great host, he was a better performer. I didn’t like the performance of “Blame It On The Alcohol”, but I loved the rendition of the Jackson 5’s “I’ll Be There”. Hova came on stage, and let those fake asses in the audience know that the king was back. Jay-Z performed “Death of Autotune”. Artist like Soulja Boy need to take notes from Jay-Z on how to perform on stage. No sagging pants, no oversized platinum chains, or overused curse words, just real lyrics! I loved Beyonce’s performance, but I didn’t like the song selection. She should of sung “Halo”. Now, I will move on to the disappointments of last nights show. I understand that Soulja Boy is making “hit” songs, but to have the audacity of putting him on stage to perform, when there were much more deserving artist out there, that could of done a much better show, is something I can’t understand. He is the definition of an artist with no substance or longevity. I know some may argue, but I NEVER like any material he has come out with thus far. I loved the fact that you decided to have people talk briefly on the impact that Michael had on their career, but some of these people should have been more prepared. They had 3 days to get it ready for the show. I loved how Neyo brought back some of the great acts from the late 80’s and 90’s, but Keith Sweat, just sounded completely horrible! I was so embarrassed for him. I think that there should be a rule about anyone accepting awards or presenting awards, from bringing alcohol on stage. I think it’s disgraceful. Leave that shit for the Source awards or any other hood rat gathering. Finally, what the hell is up with Lil Wayne and his posse’s performance at the end? It is a shame that they even allowed them to perform on stage, without a proper presentation. It was disorganized, ghetto as hell, and had no substance. I was about to give BET a B for last nights show, until they stunned me with a surprising appearance from Janet Jackson. I sit here and wonder how she found the strength to get on stage and speak on behalf of the family. Janet is so strong and I pray that her family finds the strength to heal from this tragedy. I was greatly disappointed in seeing that Joe Jackson NEVER came on stage with his daughter to comfort her while she made a short speech on behalf of her family. I know everyone grieves in different ways, but come on! Overall, I give BET an A- for this year’s award ceremony. It was the best show that they have put on in recent years. I’m not sure how MTV will come back after last nights show, but I will wait until August to see.

A TRUE ANGEL

Unfortunately, Farrah Fawcett's death has been overshadowed by the untimely death of Michael Jackson.  I think the world was better prepared for Farrah's death, because she was sick with Anal cancer for months now and yet we still hoped that she would somehow recover.  God has his own plans and though the world loved her, he knew that this angel needed to be in heaven.  I was too young to remember Charlie's Angels, but I was able to see the reruns on Nick at Night.  I was really introduced to Farrah, when I saw her made for television movie, "The Burning Bed".  She was so superb in that movie that it was hard for me to believe that this was the beautiful blond bombshell of Charlie's Angels.  She stared in "Small Sacrifices" which put her on another level.  She proved that she should be respected as a serious actress.  In a society where it is extremely difficult to be considered a serious actress and still be drop dead gorgeous, Farrah made it possible for it to happen.  I can't forget how her signature hair has been idolized and redone by the likes of Jessica Simpson, and some many popular faces of today.  Today, I mourn Farrah's death, the way that I'm mourning the death of Michael.  You lived by your own rules!  We have really lost a movie/television gem.  My condolences goes out to her family and friends. 

THE LOST OF A TRUE ICON

This very moment seems so surreal.  Just thinking of what to write in reference to the greatest pop artist of all time, Michael Jackson.  As I sit here and write, I continue to listen to the phone calls of countless people that had some kind of impact in his life, and it just doesn't seem real.  It doesn't seem like I should be writing about this.  I left work today, knowing that I would write about the late great Farrah Fawcett, but a phone call from my friend informing me that Michael Jackson was dead, seemed like a straight nightmare.  "You are fucking kidding me"!  "Michael Jackson can't be dead"!  I sit here and think about the day that Thriller premiered on MTV, I was about 2 and I can still remember it like it happened yesterday.  I never could find myself watching the entire video.  I always ran under the table in fright.  Whether you were a fan of Michael or not, you can't deny his impact on music and how there is a void that I find impossible to fill.  Today, an old school mate of mines talked about the state of music and how their is pure shit playing on the airwaves.  You barely can hear anything with substance, longevity and SOUL.  Music is in state of near extinction.  In a time when music sales are barely hitting 500,000, the death of Michael Jackson, couldn't have happened at a worse time.  I realize that I am now feeling the pain that my parents felt at the death of Marvin Gaye, John Lennon, Sam Cooke, and Otis Redding.  I am grateful that I lived in the 80's and was there to witness the great phenomenon of Michael Jackson as he made a name for himself outside of the Jackson 5.  I sympathize with our younger generation, because they never got to see the evolution of Michael Jackson.  They never got to witness great music from the great acts of the 1980's and even 90's.  Driving on the 95 on my way home, I became angry and began bawling as I tried to maintain my composure.  His music played on every station and it really hit me, "Michael is gone".  Music is dead!  All the music that is inspires me everyday, is gone.  John Coltrane, Miles Davis, Sam Cooke, Donnie Hathaway, Billie Holliday, and so many more, are all images of what use to be, are all melodies that use to play, lyrics that use to be sung, replace by bullshit like Soulja Boy, and other one hit wonders.  I know that I should never question God, but I ask myself why must he take the best.  God and I have had a rocky relationship for a long time, and I hope that I'm forgiven for what I say.  I don't talk about death, cause its something that I can't come to grips with, even though my brother passed away 8 years ago.  But I know that death doesn't discriminate and when that time comes, we must all walk down that same path.  As I sit here typing away, I remember the quote of the late JERRI NIELSON FITZGERALD, "It doesn't matter when you die, or how you die, what matters is how you lived".  Living freely, is what I want to do right now.  My life can end tonight and I want to look back and say damn, "I had a time...I did the damn thing".  Who want to cry, sit back and watch life pass by is on them, I can't cater to that, I can only worry about myself and my loved ones.  I can only cherish the moments I have with my family and look forward to accomplishing my goals.  I can't give up, because my idols didn't and music is what it is because of them.  As I sign off, I ask that we pray for the Jackson family, his parents, brothers, and sisters and lastly, his children.  Michael Jackson, may your soul forever rest in peace.  My brother loved you and I'm just happy that he can finally be closer to you.  Your star will forever shine bright.

BAD MINDED FOOLS!

Have you ever met someone, that no matter how good you do in life or how great you look in that dress, they will NEVER say a congratulations or “girl, you looking nice”? I’m sure 99% of you will say yes. Like Capelton said, “Bad Mind Ah Go Kill Dem”. Will it really hurt to give someone a complement or tell someone something good about themselves? Why are people so bad minded and grudgeful? I’m on the verge of saying “Fuck it; I won’t compliment your ass either”! The sad thing about this whole thing is that I get more love from strangers and acquaintances then I do from my own friends and family. Why does it have to be this way? I’m not begging for any kind of gratitude, but once in a while, it feels good to know that someone cares. I just can’t understand it. Having this blog made me realize the negativity that people have towards me, because I’m making a name for myself, and I’m actually doing something with my life. You don’t have to leave a comment, but a phone call or text to say, Patrice, I like what you’re doing or keep up the good work, would be fine with me. I get nothing from certain people and you know what, the same will be returned. If you feel a way because of what I said, then you’re conscious is eating you up inside. For all those that showed love to Chatty Patty, Patty is returning the love to you. I am so grateful for all the love that you have showed me and I hope that you continue your support. I wouldn’t be able to take this blog to another level without you. Patty loves you!

T-SHIRT & PANTIES ON!

Chatty Patty, I have a problem. I live in an apartment with my so-called bestfriend. She pays her half of the rent on time, and keeps the place clean, but my problem with her is that she doesn’t respect my privacy. I had a guy over last weekend and he and I were in the living room talking and having drinks. Well, my roommate decides to come out of her room, wearing panties and a t-shirt, says hello and goes in the kitchen. I was so shocked that the guy could clearly see the expression on my face. I always respect her privacy even staying in my room when I know that she has company. I’m not an insecure chick, but I think what she did was wrong. What should I do?

Thanks for writing to me. Girlfriend, I know what you are going through. I use to have friends walking back and forth in little bootie shorts with all their ass cheeks hanging out. It use to piss me off, but I kept my composer and never let them see me sweat. I could understand if she came walking out and was startled by the fact that you had company and she was partially nude, but from what you are telling me, she knew what she was walking into. I say be completely honest, but do it so that you don’t hurt her feelings and cause tension in the apartment. If she takes it the wrong way and gets ghetto on your ass, then I would advise you to either entertain your guest in the balcony to avoid an “accidental” run in or try to get out of your lease. If she is your bestfriend, you shouldn’t have to do option #1 or #2. She should be understanding and respectful of your guest and learn to put on more clothes when roaming in the apartment. Send me an update chicka!

Remember, ladies/gents, if you need some advice from yours truly, simply send me and email to therealchattypatty@gmail.com and I will reply to you as soon as I can. All the information is confidential, and no mention of your name will ever be featured on my blog, unless you advise me to do so.

FAST FOOD OR BUST?

You've been working at your job for more than 2 years, but the economy is going down the tubes and it is announced that they will be making layoffs, and unfortunately, you were one of the employees let go.  You have a child, rent and car payments and know that unemployment won't be enough to make ends meet.  You've been looking through the classifieds, going on various job interviews and still no luck.  The only jobs that are available are at fast food restaurants and supermarkets.  If this situation happened to you, would you be willing to work at McDonald's or Wal-Mart to pay the bills?  If not, what are your reasons?

NY PREP REVIEW

So I am a 29 yr old woman who jumped out of my sleep to watch NY Prep on Bravo.  Tonight was the series premier and you know your girl had to write a review on it.  I love NY and any setting taken place in the big apple, is something that is a must see.  Right off the bat, I instantly gravitated towards Jessie, the senior who is bestfriends/ex girlfriend of PC, the flirty, spoiled and often feminine playboy of the show.  She loves fashion and can't be bothered with meeting new girls, who serve absolutely no purpose.  The remaining cast members are reminiscent of Gossip Girl and I'm sure that this is Bravo's way of showing viewers of the "real" rich teens from the upper east side.  These cab hopping, fine dining, fashion driven teens is sure to keep viewers wanting more.  They live the life that most of us can only imagine, and yet many of them are blinded to the realities of the world and are often left abandoned by their jet setting parents who would rather hit the beaches of St. Barts, then to attend to the responsibilities of parenthood.  I'm looking forward to seeing more catty fights over Sebastian and PC, fashion and just fast living in NYC.  This is a must see! 

THE RINGTONE !

Hi Chatty Patty I need some help. Lately I’ve been suspecting my man of cheating on me, but I haven’t been able to find anything concrete. Last week, he and I went out for dinner and while we were enjoying our meal, his phone rang and Drake’s “You The Best” was the ring tone of choice. He didn’t even look at his phone, yet even to answer it. I was upset and figured that this must be some bitch calling my man’s phone. Patty, am I hallucinating or is my man fooling around on me?

Thanks for having the confidence to write to me for help. I wish you had given me more details on why you’re thinking your man is fooling around. For you to suspect that a ringtone can mean infidelity on his part, is letting me know that you know more then you are telling me. First of all, what you should have done is quietly picked up your cell phone and dialed his number to see if that song was also your ringtone too. If the song is the same, then you can quickly say, “oh my bad, I meant to call someone else”, but if your ringtone is Chrisette Michele’s “Epiphany aka I’m leaving”, then you know you what time it is. No sense in making an ass of yourself at the dinner table, wait till you leave the premises and then confront him with all the evidence you have gathered thus far. If you are in a relationship, there is no reason as to why your man should have that ringtone for anyone else, but you. Send me an update. I hope my advice helped you in some way.

If anyone wants to write to me seeking advice on relationships, friendships, career, fashion or just about anything, just shoot me an email at therealchattypatty@gmail.com.

Man Wallet Purse

Check out any new pics of Jay-Z, Kanye West, and Drake, you will notice that they are all wearing the "LV man wallet purse".  I'm featuring it as my fashion item of the week, because there is nothing like seeing a fine man getting his swagger on, with this leather piece hanging from his jeans.  Small enough to hold car keys, and even some emergency cash.  Retailed at $260.00 on www.louisvuitton.com.  Google "lv man purse", and there are countless websites, offering replicas of this fashion piece for half the price.

SOLEIL SHIMMER

I know its been a while since I've mentioned an item of the week, but I don't add anything on my blog that I haven't tried and isn't confident about.  My item of the week is Bic Soleil Shimmer 4 blade razor.  I honestly don't use shaving cream when shaving my legs, just soap, and when I use this razor, it leaves me with the smoothest and softest feeling.  I used it on my underarms and it passed the test.  I highly recommend this item to anyone that wants a razor that gives them a natural feeling without any bumps or cuts.  It is retailed for about an average of $4.00.  You can purchase the extra cartridges, separately.

THE AFTERMATH!

The Rhianna and Chris Brown incident has completely divided a nation.  I watched E News tonight as they covered the guilty plea from CB and Rhianna finally making an appearance in court. Looking back, you can't help but to wonder how 2 young people at the height of their career could end up in a situation like this.  I know that there are two sides to every story, but the photographs don't lie and his guilty plea reassured me that CB was more than guilty.  What bewilders me is the negative words thrown at Rhianna.  "Psycho Bitch", "She ruined his career", and let me not forget, "she did that shit on purpose", is plastered on all over the mainstream blogs.  I can't understand for the life of me, why a young woman would look at that infamous photograph of Rhianna and not feel some sort of sympathy.  I say young women, because those are the ones that slandering her name all over the net.  The excuse for their support of CB, "I met him and he is such a sweet person".  You may not be a fan of her music, or think she is a humble person, but at the end of the day, she is someones child and NO man have the right to put their hands on anyone.  All the racial slurs, like "Caribbean bitch" is uncalled for.  This is not an American v. Caribbean issue.  This is an international issue and if we continue to sweep this shit under the rug in hopes that we will all forget about it, then you're living in a fantasy world.  Domestic violence is real!  It doesn't discriminate, nor stay in certain social groups, it can happen to anyone.  It happened to me and I'm sure it happened to many of you who read Chatty Patty.  Stop the bullshit people!  This man needs help and not the kind where we wish for another platinum plaque to hang on his wall.  Its a mental sickness that needs to be tended to.  I wish them the best in life and hope that they can both overcome this unfortunate incident.

BLACK IN AMERICA 2!

CNN will be showing Black in America 2 on July 22-23rd. Below is a review on what I wrote when they showed last years special. I would hope that CNN would do a much better job this time around. In case some of you didn't read my blog when it was on myspace. Here it goes....

Last night after watching Black America, I was ready to come in this morning and critique the documentary. I like to really examine everything I watch and at times, it can become extremely annoying to certain people, but that is what thrills me about writing my responses. First off, I wish the show was more than a 2 hour segment about the black woman. Right now, black women are at a stage in life where they are not feeling appreciated, loved, and respected at home, on the street, and in the workforce. I wish that they would have emphasized more on the struggles that black women face daily. The fight for equal opportunity continues and the fight to keep the family afloat is putting much strain on their physical aspects. There are so many girls I know, that are raising their children alone without the assistance of the fathers much less, their presence. I wished they had also emphasized more about the financial situation of black women and how that financial situation can hold them back from continuing their education past the high school level. I would have loved for them to emphasize the discrimination that we experience on the daily basis from work, the media, and in our social environment. I also wished that they would have highlighted the Afro-Caribbean population in America. Again, I always say that if you're not an AFRICAN AMERICAN, meaning that you are not from the Caribbean, then it's as if we don't exist. Today is about the men, and I really hope that this gives them an opportunity to really dig deep into the mental state our black men. Other that, it was nice to see the 4th graders take their so seriously. Again, I would have loved from them to really talk about the stage when African American children begin to loose focus on the importance of an education and when the drop out rate begins, along with teen pregnancy and other situations that may occur. Did you watch the show, and if so, you let me know what you thought about it?

After watching part 2 of Black America, I sit here and wonder, what the hell, have we learned. I want to know who even watched the show. I looked at the blog views I have and I realize that up to time before I went to bed 22 people viewed the blog, no one cared to respond. Is this proof that we either don't care about the current state of African Americans, or that we are so brainwashed about what the media feeds us that issues like this isn't really worth talking about. Many are saying that the issues that were talked about were either already something that we are informed of, or they didn't spend enough time focused on the issues or digging deep into the problem so that we get a better understanding of who we are and why we are the way that we are. Did this 2 part miniseries really change anything…do you think that white America have a better understanding of the "black experience"? My answer is NO…Number 1, Black in America can not be told in a 2 part 2 hour series…it deserves its on channel, daily or weekly show…so much more than what is given…There are so many complex issues when dealing with this topic, and I don't think that anything was learned…we live in a society where excuses are made over and over again, about how I grew up this way…my daddy wasn't there for me…I had no money…if we continue to let our environment control our actions, it will be a constant domino affect where our children and their children will continue to make the same mistakes…fatherless children are continued to be born…mother's having children from men that they know aren't worth a damn…men not thinking about the consequences of their actions and ending up locked up in prison for God knows how many years…the list goes on and on…I don't care what the statistics say, because they aren't a reflection of who I am…like Common said "be the writer of your own horoscope"…we have to take full control of our lives…take control of our responsibilities…men you know how it is to grow up without a father, so why the hell would you allow your own child to experience what you have gone through…girls we know how it was when our mother's had us at a very young age and maybe they weren't the mother's that you wanted them to be, but yet you decide you want to repeat the actions of generations before you and continue the cycle…you are limiting yourself because you want to want so badly to be loved by a man…why the hell you are trying to love yourself…focus on building up your self esteem…continuing your education, fixing up your credit…saving money and doing thing for YOURSELF…using protection when having sex…so many women know damn well their man is cheating on them and they continue to play Russian Roulette with their life but not using protection…it takes 1 time, and even though, many of us know it, we continue to walk around thinking that this can not happen to me…my cousin died this year from Aids and it took him only once to get it ...such a young life wasted away for a couple of minutes of pleasure…go with your man to get tested together…we as women need to support our men…not kick them to the curve because they are going to through financial problems, or may not be educated, or locked up…we are so quick to jump on the next train when things get rough…our black men need us…they need our support, guidance, and respect…men don't think that I'm going to let you slide either…women aren't a door mat for you shit all over…we work, go to school and do other activities and at the end of the day, all we want is that support, respect…getting intimidated by our strengths isn't cutting it anymore…leave that outside on the door mat…the only slavery we are going through is the mental slavery we put on ourselves…we have to rise out of the slump and begin to turn back the hands of time, when blacks were fighting for the opportunity to even get an education, to vote, to be able to shit in the same restaurants…now that we have them, many of us, complain about all kind of things that makes absolutely no sense…its time to wake…we've been asleep for too long…

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

As a child, I always thought that everyone had a father as great as mine and that they existed in every household.  Of course I was hit by the reality of the world around me and realized that many people aren't as lucky as I am to have such a great role model in their life.  Every child, in their lifetime has been asked that question, "if your parents divorced, would you live with your mother or your father"? I always chose my father.  He took on the responsibility of fatherhood from the moment me and my sister and brothers were born.  From daycare till high school, my father would drop me off and pick me up when that final bell rung.  When mommy wasn't around doing her nursing duties, he would braid our hair.  Sunday's was devoted to watching him play soccer at the park.  God forbid the ice cream truck would pass by while he was in the middle of scoring a goal.  He would immediately stop the game in order to hand us some change to spend.  Like any father, he was extremely over protective when it came to the boys and I couldn't date till I entered college.  Of course I was heated about that, but looking back, I realized that he was teaching me some valuable lessons for me to implement as an adult.  Things aren't perfect, because I have done many things to disappoint him and hope that we can somehow move forward into repairing our relationship.  I'm fortunate enough to have my father in my life and I never had to question him.  The love was always there and on this day, I would like to send a special Happy Father's Day to my daddy, Patrick Campbell.  I wish more men can take on the responsibility that God has given them, like you have, for so many years.  Patty loves you!  

AND THE WINNER IS....

Congratulations to Krysta Stanford for winning the "So You Think You Know Me" contest.  She has won a 25 dollar gift from DSW!  For those that did not participate, there will be more contest coming soon.  Thank you for your continuous support.

TODAY IS THE LAST DAY!!!!!

Today at 11:59 pm will be the last time to enter "So You Think You Know Me" contest. Answer all 6 questions correctly and you will be entered into a drawing to win a 25.00 gift card from DSW or Ebay. Remember to send your answers to my email address at therealchattypatty@gmail.com. I checked out DSW website at http://www.dsw.com/, and they are having a huge sale where you get $10.00 off a $49.00 or more purchase. You can't beat that! In order to take advantage of this special offer, you can only purchase the shoe online. So good luck to those that have already answered the 6 questions and for the rest of you, there is still time. This is NOT a gimmick. This is a thank you to all the people that have supported me in the short time that Chatty Patty has come to life! A live video of the drawing will be posted tomorrow. So look out for that. Good luck!

CW FALL LINE UP

I just received an email from that network that took off my favorite modern day sitcom The Game. Below is the new line-up for shows for this fall. As you can see, new shows have been added, along with the regular, beyond 15 minutes of fame sitcoms like One Tree Hill remains. Here it is in case any one was interested in seeing the roster. In the meantime, I am hearing rumors that BET is trying to bring about The Game on their network, and if it is true, I would be extremely happy. Stay tuned for more details on that!

PREMIERE SCHEDULE
Tuesday, Sept. 88/7c 90210 (Season Premiere)
9/8c MELROSE PLACE (Series Premiere)

Wednesday, Sept. 98/7c AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL (2-Hour Season Premiere)

Thursday, Sept. 108/7c THE VAMPIRE DIARIES (Series Premiere)
9/8c SUPERNATURAL (Season Premiere)

Monday, Sept. 148/7c ONE TREE HILL (Season Premiere)
9/8c GOSSIP GIRL (Season Premiere)

Wednesday, Sept. 168/7c AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL
9/8c THE BEAUTIFUL LIFE: TBL (Series Premiere)

Friday, Sept. 258/7c SMALLVILLE (Season Premiere)
9/8c AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL (Encore Episodes)

THE POWER OF THE PENIS

It amazes how much power the penis has these days. The penis can make us cum, give us life, and go completely insane when it abandons us and enters another home. I have to give it its props, because right now, I’ve seen women make complete asses of themselves and do things that make me question my own behavior. Right now, I can use a penis in my life! I need that power that it has over women. For months, I’ve been hearing the stories of women who have all been affected by a misbehaved penis and they are left drowning in their own sorrows, watching life past them by. I have sympathy for all of you, because all of your stories are different and yet our hardships make the bond much tighter, but summer is approaching, the weather is getting warmer and yet we are still hibernating as if we are in the dead of winter! NO MORE LADIES! Get your asses out of bed! No more wasted tears, on these empty promises. We need to have PUSSY POWER! Lol!!! I can’t believe I said that. I can’t even say the word, but I can type it! Okay back to the topic at hand. We need to take control of the situation. If you have been feeling this way for 3 + months, there is nothing more than can be done to erase what has already happened, but you can take control of the present and future. Do you know how many men are reading our myspace and facebook pages and laughing at our ass, while they go out and live life normally? They are not studying your ass, but you give his penis all the power! What will it take for you to end the sleepless nights, the tears that are constantly falling and the depression that you have found yourself in? Will you be 40 before you realize that you wasted so many years and yet his ass still didn’t come back to you? Come on now! You are so smart and beautiful! Look at yourself in the mirror and say “Fuck him, it’s his loss and I’m going to give my love to someone who deserves it….ME”. Yes, ME!!!! Bring that love back home where it once was, and let’s start enjoying life again!

WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS!

I’ve been hiatus for the last couple of days and when this happens, I can’t find a damn thing to talk about, and so I go back in my daily conversations with everyone around me and start to think of topics to write about. The flood of hot stuff came pouring in and then the lack of time in between work and home life made it difficult to move my fingers and type out my words and so I’m scrambling to put something up, before you guys stop logging on to Chatty Patty.
Yesterday, I was extremely heated by certain events that occurred and it just left me shaking my head and wondering how much longer we will have to continue to X out the people in our life, eliminating the real from the pretenders, and just going through constant brawls with fake ass bitches. I went online to Wikipedia to look up the definition of FRIENDSHIP and this is what I found. Friendship is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.
Frankly, not many people seem to be exhibiting this behavior. It takes me a long time to actually say, “this girl is my FRIEND”, if I introduce you by your name to someone, then you know that you don’t fall into that category. I have had to build friendships, only to see them fall due to disloyal behavior, lies, or sometimes we just simply grow apart. But what I can’t tolerate is the FAKEASSNESS! I hate a fake ass bitch. I hate to see someone that comes around with a big ass plastic smile on their face, and deceitfulness, lying underneath. When I see behaviors like this starting to peak thru like the sun on a cloudy day, I begin to make my move to haul ass! ANYTIME, someone comes around you talking shit about their friends and even their family members, you better believe that that person can NEVER be trusted. They are talking shit about you too! Please I ask all of you, to continue to open your eyes and never let your guard down towards anyone that is in your life. People these days are selfish, and harbor ill feelings towards you. These people don’t want to see you rise, they only pray for your downfall in life. When the lies and deceit come out of the shadow, no need to fight, God has a plan for them, and believe me, it won’t be ugly.

WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS!

I’ve been hiatus for the last couple of days and when this happens, I can’t find a damn thing to talk about, and so I go back in my daily conversations with everyone around me and start to think of topics to write about. The flood of hot stuff came pouring in and then the lack of time in between work and home life made it difficult to move my fingers and type out my words and so I’m scrambling to put something up, before you guys stop logging on to Chatty Patty.
Yesterday, I was extremely heated by certain events that occurred and it just left me shaking my head and wondering how much longer we will have to continue to X out the people in our life, eliminating the real from the pretenders, and just going through constant brawls with fake ass bitches. I went online to Wikipedia to look up the definition of FRIENDSHIP and this is what I found. Friendship is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.
Frankly, not many people seem to be exhibiting this behavior. It takes me a long time to actually say, “this girl is my FRIEND”, if I introduce you by your name to someone, then you know that you don’t fall into that category. I have had to build friendships, only to see them fall due to disloyal behavior, lies, or sometimes we just simply grow apart. But what I can’t tolerate is the FAKEASSNESS! I hate a fake ass bitch. I hate to see someone that comes around with a big ass plastic smile on their face, and deceitfulness, lying underneath. When I see behaviors like this starting to peak thru like the sun on a cloudy day, I begin to make my move to haul ass! ANYTIME, someone comes around you talking shit about their friends and even their family members, you better believe that that person can NEVER be trusted. They are talking shit about you too! Please I ask all of you, to continue to open your eyes and never let your guard down towards anyone that is in your life. People these days are selfish, and harbor ill feelings towards you. These people don’t want to see you rise, they only pray for your downfall in life. When the lies and deceit come out of the shadow, no need to fight, God has a plan for them, and believe me, it won’t be ugly.

PATTY'S BACK

Hey everyone!   I was out of town for a couple of days but now Patty's back.  I just want to remind everyone about the "So You Think You Know Me" contest which ends this Friday, June 19th. Simple answer the 6 questions by emailing me the answers to therealchattypatty@gmail.com. If you get them correct, you will automatically be entered into the drawing to receive a $25.00 gift card from DSW and to my foreign readers, it will be a $25.00 gift card from Ebay.  I will also be doing some redesigning and revamping of The Real Chatty Patty.  I'm very excited about that, and I hope you like the changes too.  I will be putting up some new postings throughout the day, so please check back periodically to see what Patty has to chat about.  Please...don't forget to spread the word.  Thank you for your continuous support!  Patty loves you!

EXISTING VERSUS LIVING

It’s so ironic how a simple email can stop you in your tracks and make you think of your life in a whole different way. A friend of mine received a bucket list email yesterday that I had sent her, you know the ones where they ask is if you ever sky dived, went deep sea diving, etc, and so she started to mark the (X) on the ones that she has done and couldn’t finish it, and not due to time, but due to the fact that she’s realized that she hasn’t even done half of the things on that list. We talked for a while on the meaning of this list and how it made her realize that she wasn’t LIVING, but only existing in this world. We are so consumed with college, work, and our personal lives, that we don’t find the time to just get out there and DO IT! We sit in a cubicle, at a job we hate, a boss we despise and co-workers we wish we can throw out the 13th floor and at the end of the day, many of us take this same frustration home, go to bed, wake up the next day and start the same routine all over again, only to tell us that our services are no longer needed. Meanwhile, time is passing us by while we watch others jump on their flights and jet set the world. Is this living life? We dreamt of pursuing that career as a fashion designer, model, or promoter, as a child to only have the realities of life, tell us that those goals are unobtainable. I realized this week, with all the mental discussions going on in my head that maybe college isn’t for me anymore. I’m contemplating whether or not I should pursue the additional 2 years to get my bachelor, or end it now and focus on my blog and all the other writing projects that I want to pursue. Will a bachelor in Journalism get me any closer to owning my own magazine one day? At this point, I’m ready to throw in the towel and say “FUCK IT”, and focus on what makes me happy. What’s the sense in devoting so much time to college, when the majority of the graduates are having difficulty finding work, even with a bachelor or masters degree? I say focus on what I’m doing right now and make it my priority, the wasted money spending on classes and books can be used to promote this thing and get if off the ground. In the meantime, I’m my own boss, no annoyance around me and I’m able to live comfortably and travel at the same time. So many decisions to make!

THE SCARLETT LETTER

I remember a couple of years back, I was dating this guy who decides that one day to ask me the infamous question, “how many men did you sleep with”. I seriously hate when questions like this are asked, because I always feel it’s more important to ask whether or not you have any STD’s. So the two of us pull out paper and pen and began to write down names of all our partners we had in the last couple of years. I’m not saint and I’ve had my fair share of sexual escapades, but the sad part wasn’t writing down the names, the sad part was that I actually forgot the name of one of the guys I slept with. I tried so hard to remember his name, even resorting to pulling out my dusty ass journal and seeing if his name was even worth mentioning, but I hadn’t, and so I just wrote “white shirt”. Of course I got grilled as to why I could ever forget his name, and my response was, “that it was a one time thing and it wasn’t important enough to remember”. Then the facial expressions came and as you can tell, that relationship didn’t last long. James Brown said it was a man’s world and in today’s society we are still branded as a slut if we have more than a certain amount of partners or are very honest with our sexuality. Men are able to sleep with a hundred women and yet at the end of the day, they are given high fives and even praised if they forget the names of the women. God forbid we forget the name of one of our sex buddies! A practically got the scarlet letter stapled to my chest that night. So women let me know how you feel. Have you been in a situation like this? What do you do when you are asked to be honest about how many sex partners you’ve had? Should we open up the skeletons in our closet? Should we disclose the amount, in fear that we will too be branded as a slut? Give me your thoughts!

SO YOU THINK YOU KNOW ME?

So you think you know Patty? Well prove it to me. I started this blog in March of this year and since then I have posted 118 posts and have almost 6,000 hits so I know someone is reading. I had a challenge earlier where I wasn’t able to find a budget fashionista. This time, I will make the contest much easier than the first and more importantly, it will cost you absolutely nothing. Below are 6 questions from random postings, in which you must answer. The ones that answer correctly will be entered into a drawing where I will randomly select one winner who will win a $25.00 gift card to DSW! To my foreign readers, you will win a $25.00 gift card to Ebay! Simple send me an email to the answers of the questions below to therealchattypatty@gmail.com only!. All entries must be recieved no later than Friday June 19th. Let the games begin!

1. Name the fashion icon that I described as being boho chic?

2. How many pounds is Patty hoping to lose and by which month?

3. Which location did Patty not attend and one of her readers sent in their review instead?

4. My photo was featured in one of my fashion reviews. Which one?

5. Patty described the ending of this show as “The Death of Television”.

6. What book caused Patty to end her obsession for a guy and finally move on?

LIVING A LIE!

Reality hits us a couple of times in our life and at that point, we have the option to either learn from it or choose to ignore it. At a point, we can no longer choose to continue to ignore unhealthy behavior. Yesterday, I sat down and took a hard look at my life and realized that from all the years that I have been working, I have shit to show for it. I am basically working to pay bills and my outrageous lifestyle of eating out, shopping and traveling. Many of you may know how it is to be in my shoes, and like my boyfriend said yesterday said, “there are so many going through the same thing”, but him telling me this is not making me feel any better about myself. Next year, I will be hitting that 30 year milestone and it’s a sad reality to face, that I am still living between my parents and boyfriend’s house, while driving a 2009 car, and barely scrapping any kind of money in my savings account. Some of you may be thinking, why would someone like me ever put this information on my blog, and I have to say that I will ALWAYS keep it real. I refuse to paint this sunny scenario to my readers when my life is quite the opposite. I feel that if I’m completely real with my life, then you will be able to do the same with yours. The problem with society is that we are ALL pretending! Making others feel that our life is better than their own, in hopes that we make them feel unworthy. We continue to spend money we don’t have, to impress people we don’t like. This behavior has caused us to rob, steal, cheat, and do whatever necessary to live the lives of these musicians, actors and models that we see on television and it isn’t right. We go to bed every night knowing that we are living a constant LIE! I don’t want my children and a grandchild growing up thinking that we can’t be who we really want to be and in turn follow what is the norm. Of course there is NEVER a time table that one must follow in life, and in life, we are led down different paths, but the reality is that we aren’t getting any younger, and while we continue to say THANK GOD IT’S FRIDAY, we forget to realize the wasted days that we have spent counting down till the weekend and the rush to bury ourselves 6 feet under. So after analyzing all of this for the last couple of days, I’m left scratching my head and wondering what move will I make next. This hasn’t been the first time that this reality has hit me and if I can get it under control, it will be the last. It all depends on which path I choose to follow.

MIND GONE BLANK

Right now, I'm not sure what to write on my blog.  I knew what I wanted to say yesterday, but the weather interrupted my internet connection and now my mind has gone blank.  Please bare with me as I get my thoughts together.  Outside distractions are also a reason for my slackness and hopefully I will be able to get back to the reality of things.  

BLOG BLAST!

I just want to put on blast 2 new blogs that I am following!  The Makeup Artist at http://teaserhi.blogspot.com and Soups World at www.soupsworld.ning.com!  The Makeup Artist is based out of Trinidad so all you women who are already setting up yourself for carnival 2k10, she is who you want to go to, to look hot and sexy on the road when you jumping up in your pretty costume!  Soups World is a site for all the FABULOUS people out there.  A great way to network, set up your own page and meet new people.  Check them out today!  Thanks for all the love you shown Chatty Patty, and so I'm returning it to you!

MY WEIGHT LOSS UPDATE!

Since I announced to you all that I was going on a diet, I have to announce that I've lost 7 pounds so far.  I'm excited at my progress and know that I have a long way to go.  My goal is to lose 30 pounds by October.  What has Patty been doing to make sure she reaches that goal?  I've been going to the gym 3-4 times a week for an 1 hour each.  I start off by warming up, weight training and then cardio.  I'm drinking 5 bottles of water daily.  As annoying as it may get to have to practically run to the bathroom every minute, my body feels healthier and my skin looks brighter.  I eat 3 meals daily along with 2-3 snacks in between.  I start off with my morning breakfast, usually oatmeal or a bowl of cereal, a banana for a snack, lunch, low calorie yogurt, dinner, and sometimes a fruit or a bottle of water.  Doing this NEVER leaves me starving, unless I forget to eat a snack in between meals.  I do 50 to 100 sits ups daily, because my mid section is my problem area.  As painful as it is, I know that it will all be worth it, in the end.  I know that I have reached my goal, when I don't have to walk around squeezing in my belly or pulling at my sides.  Its something I'm not afraid to say and I hope that we can all be honest with our bodies and help one another, because I know many of you responded publicly and privately to the initial posting about wanting to lose weight or just living a healthier life.  All my health food junkies please respond with links or anything on dieting tips.  Leave it as a comment or send it to me on therealchattypatty@gmail.com.  

STAND STRONG

Today, I was feeling really down.  It just seems like lately, the devil is running rampant these days.  Nothing seems to go right.  You try so hard to see things happen, and you continuously get a fight down from everyone.  I should be use to it, but sometimes it gets to me, especially when you want to do something positive and productive in your life.  People are using their position in life to make you feel less of a person.  Everyone is hating one another.  Networking has become so difficult these days, when your friend request are denied or your emails are being ignored.  It makes you want to say "fuck this shit" and just continue working a 9 to 5, but for many people like me, the 9 to 5 is only a temporary resting stop until you've reached your final destination.  Don't get me wrong, I love my job, but at the end of the day, its not my career.  Its not what I went to school for.  Many of you know how I feel and are often discouraged and feel like no matter what we do, people will never want to see us prosper.  I just want to encourage you all not to give up, not to shed a tear or feel hopeless.  Someday the tables will turn and when they do, never let your position in life get to your head, because in an instance, it can all be taken away from you.  

OUT OF HIBERNATION

HEY EVERYONE!  Well I've been sick all weekend and I'm finding that inner strength to give you something to look forward to when you log on.  I do see that even though I don't write as much as I use to, I am getting a lot of hits on my blog and I appreciate all the love and support and it shows that you are truly spreading the word.  I do want to remind you all to click Follow, and yourself as a following on Chatty Patty. You can be added to a NEW contest that I am having by becoming follower.  Unfortunately, the Budget Fashionista Challenge didn't work out in the way that I had hoped, and I will try something different this time around.  More details about this contest will be available on Monday.  

WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS?

Its seems like women are constantly questioning the people it in their lives and not so much the men, but the women.  I've always found it difficult to have friends and more difficult to keep them.  I don't have much patience when it comes to the drama that most females like to keep, so the ones that I do have are few and far in between, and I prefer to live my life that way.  What amazes me more than anything is the fact that many females know the shady ones and yet they continue to hang out with them.  They walk hand in hand in front the video light when the dj ask if anyone knows their real friend.  The majority of the people in the club know they're lying their asses off.  How many of you know that you can trust your friend with any confidential information and know that it stays between the two of you?  How many of you know that your friend and your man can be left alone without them having birthday sex on your new queen size bed?  How many of you have friends that aren't smiling in your face and gossiping about you on those blog sites?  How many of you know that your friend is not constantly trying to compete against you?  Not many, I'm sure.  We sit here and we talk about us not finding a good man, but maybe we need to check the company we keep before we can even think about anything else.