I'M SORRY, SO SORRY!

Hey Chatty Patty Peeps! I'm sorry that I haven't been able to post up some new topics, I've been busy studying for my finals. Starting on Friday, I will have new and exciting post to put on my blog. Please be patient and remember to spread the word about Chatty Patty!

ZOE KRAVITZ

This weeks Fashion Icon is no other than my style favorite, Zoe Kravitz. Born in 1988, by her famous parents Lenny Kravitz and Lisa Bonet, it’s no wonder why she has a great sense of style and self esteem. Why I love this girl, it’s her effortless style, boho chic, laid back way of fashion that has me going insane. Following in the footsteps of her mom, Zoe was featured in a number of films from, The Brave One, and No Reservations. I am sure that we will be seeing and hearing more about this style icon for years to come.

JUST AN IDEA?

Earlier, when I started this blog, I posted a response to Steve Harvey's book, "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man" without even reading the book, which was wrong of me, but I decided to purchase the book at Barnes & Noble and started reading the first chapter. I won't give any feedback until I am completely done with the book, but I am interested in having a get together with those that are reading or have read the book. I won't do it unless you all are interested, but I think it would be great idea. So if you are interested, please email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com or simply reply to this post.

OBSESSED (REVIEW)

So Friday night, my sister and I went to see Beyonce in Obsessed. When going to see a Beyonce film, I often have to hold my breath in hopes that she can actually bring the character to life. In many of the films she was in, she always had a difficult time playing off the dramatic scenes. But in Obsessed, she was able to protray a married woman stalked, harrassed and nearly killed by an overzellous woman wanting to take her place. Idris Elba did a fantastic job, but that was to be expected. There were certain parts of the movie, where I felt like they did a bad job on the writing aspect, especially when it came to the female detective. I saw no reason for her character to be written in the movie. The moviegooers left the theater feeling satisfied. From a 1 - 10 scale, I give the movie a 9. Now on to June 29th, when Beyonce hits the stage at Bank Atlantic Center. If you haven't gotten your tickets yet, the $18.00 tickets are SOLD OUT, leaving the $50.00, $80.00, and $100.00 remaining.

WEEKEND MOVIES TO WATCH

Well this weekend, I'm going to hit up the movie theater to watch Idris Elba & Beyonce in Obsessed. I'm assuming that this is a modern day Fatal Attraction. I still don't think that this is the role that Beyonce needs in order to prove that she can be respected as an actress. The thoughts on this film will be posted by the end of this weekend. Tyson, the bio is also in theaters, and I've been hearing great things about this film. I knew a lot about his life story and I'm sure this movie gave even more insight into his life. I'm looking forward to watching this one too! And finally, The Soloist, based on a true story is another movie that may be a nominee in next year's Oscars, I guess we will wait and see. I always love Jamie Foxx when he is playing in a dramatic role. Robert Downey Jr. in my opinion is one of the greatest actors alive, and I would hope to get a chance to see this one too. Whichever one you decide, PLEASE don't support the bootleg copies. Pay your money and see the real thing. Have a great weekend!

LOVE ME FOR ME

How boring would this world be if everyone looked and acted the same way. I love individuality and knowing that there are so many of us who don’t fit the cookie cutter image of what of what society expects us to be. I go back to when I decided to grow my dreads and I cut off my hair and started growing my natural hair and the many guys who were into me prior to the transformation, who now seeing the changes decide that they don’t find me attractive anymore. It didn’t matter, because the choice was mine. I think of my adolescent years and knowing that many people didn’t want to hang out with me. I wasn’t popular and my personality made it harder for anyone to relate to me. As I get older, I realize that we are still segregating ourselves in little groups. At times, it bothers me that I am different and I am fully aware of that, but I expect that the people around me would accept that and love me for me. I’m not the first person that people would call for invites or just to talk and I guess that comes with the territory. It hurts me when people call me “weird” or say “you’re boring”. It’s just not something that people say to someone without expecting that that person begins to distance themselves. I refuse to create drama to make my life more exciting than it really is. I refuse to go to clubs and dance on my head and do splits in the middle of the dance floor. I refuse to cut my locs off and perm my hair because being natural isn’t beautiful in their eyes. I refuse to sell myself, just to gain a couple of unneeded friendships. I refuse to alter my personality because you may not find it exciting to you or your friends. My differences make me who I am. I didn’t change then and I won’t change now. If you want to love me or be my friend, then that is a part of Patrice that you have to accept. I’m so tired of the rude comments and the judgments bestowed upon me. Like Heavy D said in his hit song in the 80’s, “I want somebody to love me for me”.

REALITY BITES

Sometimes, I envy those that are single.  I know its selfish of me to think this way, but being in a relationship is extremely stressful and takes too much of my time.  Being single gives you the freedom to focus on yourself, your needs and your wants, where as being in a relationship, the other person's needs usually come in front of our own.  We also lose a sense of who we are and only think about the lack of it when we are on the verge of breaking up.  At the end of the day, I can't blame my spouse for me putting my life on pause, because it is my own wrong doing.  As women we tend to make so many sacrifices for the sake of our relationship.  The reality is, that we may not get the same in return.  Its a hard reality to face, and its painful when the relationship has lasted for years and when it ends, we realize that we have nothing to fall back on.  We are left starting back from square one.  You have no other choice!  We have to just get back up, dust ourselves off, and start over.  Everyday is a new day, a new day to rewrite the mistakes of yesterday.  Hang in there!

CONCEALER

So yesterday, before heading home, I stopped off at the mall to add some make-up to my already growing collection. I was in search of an under eye concealer. The MAC make-up consultant gave me this concealer and used a brush to apply it under my eye. I was instantly impressed with the product and didn't hesitate to buy it. I loved the way it looked under my eye by disguising the horrible dark circles. She did recommend a concealer that was a shade darker than my skin tone to give it a more natural effect. Priced at $15.99, I highly recommend this to anyone that is looking to camouflage those embarrassing raccoon eyes.

LIVING OUR DREAM

So many Americans are either unemployed or stuck at a job they truly hate.  Living our dreams seem so far fetched, that many of us, given the opportunity to actually obtain it, would pass it by.  Is it fear that keeps us from moving on, or the belief that what we want can not be obtained.  Lately, I've been feeling like there is so much more for me to accomplish.  My job has no future and my co-workers do nothing but bring about unnecessary stress and headache.  My job doesn't pay me enough and at the end of the day, my fingers are too tired to write up a new post on my blog.  Through all the obstacles that may stand in my way, I continue to fight against it.  Writing is something that I always loved to do, but the fear of having my dream go nowhere, kept me from pushing this craft to another level.  My inspiration come from the many positive feedback that I have received so far, and its you that keep me pushing through all the hurdles.  Your happiness, heartache, anger, and drama filled lives, give me a reason to continue to type at midnight, so that you will have something exciting to read in the morning.  My dream hasn't reached its full potential, but I'm getting there.  I want to see all the people I love reach their full potential.  This economy has got many us fearful of the unknown, but don't allow the fear of today, hold you back from tomorrow.  

STRAPLESS FINDS FOR UNDER $100.00

Summer is approaching and there is no better feeling then having the cool summer breeze blow against your body wearing these sexy strapless finds. What's even better is they are all under $100.00!

1. $2.13 http://www.asos.com/

2. $68.00 http://www.urbanoutfitters/.

3. $24.99 http://www.charlotterusse.com/

MAHOGANY

When you think of a movie with style, grace and a great theme song, you think of Mahogany. Filmed in 1975, Berry Gordy directed this picture which stared the great diva Diana Ross and co-stared Billy Dee Williams.  The movie took place in Chicago where a struggling fashion designer has bigger dreams than being someone's assistant or allowing the man she loves to hold her back from conquering the world.  With a #1 theme song, "Do You Know Where You're Going To", and the famous line, "Let me tell you something... Success is nothing... NOTHING!!! Without someone you love to share it with.", this movie is an inspirational tale for anyone feeling like all the doors of opportunity are closed.  

THE POWER OF EBAY

Back in 2003, my best friend introduced me to this worldwide online auction.  I was skeptical at first, but I decided to start off small, and gradually make my way to the big leagues.  Winning that first Baby Phat handbag, began my love affair with my other best friend, Ebay.  Since then, I have brought countless items ranging from handbags, shoes, vintage dresses, and fragrances.  I feel its my duty to help others, become an Ebay addict like myself.  Bidding on Ebay requires patience and will power.  Many people are often frighten of bidding on items from a seller that has a fictitious name and no face.  I admit, that I felt the same way, but starting off small, is the first step, until you've familiarize yourself with the whole process.  Its important that you first set up a PayPal account prior to signing up on Ebay.  Many companies do their transactions through PayPal, because it is a very secure sight.  Your information is confidential and you can rest assure that it will not be shared with a third party.  Once you sign on to Ebay, have fun!  There is no greater feeling then browsing  and getting a sense of your wants and needs.  Once you find an item that you are interested in, carefully read the sellers feedback score and history.  I NEVER bid from a sellers, whose feedback score is under 98%.  The length of time that they have been an Ebay seller/bidder is also important.  You won't bid from a seller who hasn't had at least 100+ items in their history.  CAREFULLY, read the item description! I can't even tell you how many horror stories I heard from people who just quickly glanced over the description without reading the fine print.  If the information is not clear enough, don't hesitate to contact the seller.  I'm always doing this, especially if the seller hasn't provided enough pictures of the item, or left out important information.  Once you're secure and you feel that you are ready, place the item on your watch list.  Know your limit.  Ebay can be extremely addictive, so if you know that the bidding has gone past your available cash, don't continue to torture yourself by keeping the item on your watch list.  If the item is still under your limit, then the fun will begin from this point.  You have to be extremely smart in the way that you bid. If I know that there is an item that I want extremely bad, I NEVER bid no more than 3 minutes before the end of the bid.  Never let the other bidders see you sweat!  If at first, you place your first bid, and you get a quick counteraction, don't rush to put in your second bid.  Wait till the last couple of seconds and place your maximum bid seconds before it ends.  The best way to do this, is from your computer, if not, make sure that your cell phone is equipped with web access for on the go bidding.  Once you've won your item, please pay for the item.  If the seller allows 7 days max to pay for the item, don't wait till the last day to do so.  You may be surprised how quickly the seller leaves you a negative feedback.  Once the item is paid, wait patiently for it to come in the mail.  One you've received the item, don't forget to leave a feedback.  Be completely honest in your responses and ask the seller to do the same.  Since I've never sold an item on Ebay, I can't write on that experience, but as far as buying, there is no greater experience.  Enjoy Ebay, try not to let it take over you life!  

JIM CROCE

Many memories of my childhood are so easily forgotten, but one thing that I always remembered was the music.  Though I was born in 1980, driving in my father's car as he dropped my sister and I to nursery school, felt like we were living in the 60's & 70's. When I think of great singer, songwriters of this era, the first name that comes to mind is Jim Croce.  Born, James Joseph Croce in 1943, he became famous for his hits, "Time In A Bottle" and "Operator".  Tragically, he and his band mate died in a small plane crash in 1973.  Many were stunned by his untimely death. His memory lives on in the many songs and musicians who admired his great ability to write timeless classics.  Jim Croce had a way of writing that you could instantly close your eyes and visualize every lyric in the song.  There are many singer/songwriters on the modern times that are reminiscent of Croce, but none could compare to his gifted way of storytelling.  You are surely missed!

MARRIAGE ON THE FIRST DATE

When going on a first date, should we think about marriage?  Is it important to find out to find out if your date is marriage material?

RED DOOR SPA

Saturday, me and my girlfriends went to the Red Door Spa.  Since I have never been to a spa before, I began to ask many questions on what I should expect.  We had an 11:00 am appointment, but I was late since I was running on Trini time.  Once entering the spa, I was greeted by the first desk clerk who checked me in and advised me that my fee was paid, which I was very thankful.  He showed me to the locker room, where I will change into my robe and then wait in the relaxation room until my masseuse is ready for me.  The locker room was equipped with a shower, changing room, and all the necessities available for our feminine needs.  I changed into my robe and while waiting in the relaxation room, I filled out the questionnaire sheet.  My masseuse came and led me into a private room.  The room was lit with candles, soft smelling fragrances and soothing music.  She introduced me to the different oils and explained the meaning behind each fragrance.  I choose the stress reliever.  I was told to unrobe and lay on the heated table.  She began to scrub off the dead skin off my body and then applied the oil to my body.  I was wrapped in plastic and warm towels while she massaged my scalp and finally massaging my body.  I was given a pair of gloves to do same procedure at home.  My experience from a 1 to 10 scale, at Red Door Spa, was a 10!  It has got to the be the best experience I have had all year.  I am looking forward to returning.  The staff was great!  The spa decor is upscale, classy, with a modern day twist.  You leave feeling relaxed and beautiful.  I highly recommend Red Door Spa to anyone wanting to get away and be pampered.  

www.reddoorspas.com

BEYONCE TOUR!!!!!

Mrs. Beyonce Knowles-Carter has announced her tour dates for the US, and for my S. Florida readers, she will be here on Monday, June 29th at the BankAtlantic Center! Tickets go on Sale Saturday, April 25th!!!! I am so looking forward to her concert! If its anything like the Destiny Child concert I went to about 4 years ago, then I will surely not be disappointed.

I'M FED UP!

I truly reach in a stage in my life where I can’t make excuses for bad behavior, I can’t feel sympathy for those that continue to reenter a dangerous environment, or continue to complain about things that are easily fixable. I care for people so much and maybe it’s not easily shown because I do have an incredible way of disguising it. I feel that I’m continuing questioning the people that attempt to enter my circle and I continue to put up the NO VACANCY sign on my door step. They say it’s a part of life and we will always have to caution those that come around with their plastic smiles. I love positive vibes! I love to surround myself with all kinds of people. I don’t only socialize with Trinidadians because my family is from there or Jamaican’s because my boyfriend is from there. I love all people no matter where you come from. What I don’t like is BULLSHIT! Apparently, bullshit is in season right now. So much bullshit and I can make a nice chow! There are so many opportunities to allow ourselves to get our feet wet, and yet, many of continue to stay on dry land. We surround ourselves with the same shit while dragging others along for the ride. Not me! I have wings and I’m soaring in the sky right now. I have serious plans for 09 and beyond and I refuse to have ANYONE come around with any bad minded vibes, because I’m only dealing with positivity. If you don’t like my blog, fine, you don’t have to read it. If you don’t like me, fine, you’re entitled to your opinion. You are completely entitled to your feelings, but DON’T come around me with your negative shit, and drama filled life! I graduated high school in 98 and I never plan on going back! Some of you people need to grow the fuck up! You need to realize that your actions have consequences, and you need to own up to your mistakes. When did people stop listening and the “I know” begin? When we will begin to edit ourselves and not allow the world to know our business? This world is such a big and beautiful place and we continue to cry over spoiled milk. Like my friend said yesterday, we were born to love one man. If he’s not the one for you, move your ass along! How much begging and pleading and reconciling must one person do for a relationship? IT’S NOT WORTH IT! I refuse to be 35, alone and miserable. Summer is here! Let your minds and your hearts be open to love and be loved! Stop restricting yourself from fulfilling happiness. You will soon wake up and realize how you’ve allowed the years to pass you by. Be in control of your own destiny. Stop allowing others to dictate your life. You are in the driver’s seat and life is the highway! Stop giving people a reason to talk about you and a reason to know a minute by minute update on your life! Since when have we allowed Myspace, Facebook, & Twitter to become our cyberspace diary! Start editing the “truth” about our lives and stop fabricating the ones that aren’t true. If you take what I said to heart, then I can’t help that. I refuse to apologize for certain things that are needed to be said. I hope you have a blessed weekend! Patty signing off!

CHAT TO PATTY

Hey Patty Peeps! I'm going to be introducing a new segment to my blog called "Chat to Patty". In this segment, you can simply email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com and talk to me about ANYTHING! Your name will not be featured in the post, unless you instruct me to do so. This morning, one of my readers sent me a very interesting scenario that was best suited for Chat to Patty! Enjoy!

Hey I had to share this with you: I met this guy some time ago, real cute and sexy looking. I’ve seen him in clubs, fetes you name it and we only flirted with our eyes until this carnival for one of the fetes he came up to me and we exchanged numbers. Since then we’ve been talking about everything from relationships, to sports to the weather to bills to kids whatever under the sun. we never talked about hooking up or anything because he knows I’m out of a relationship and I know he hopes to reconcile and get back with his ex (and kids’ mom), but the other day I went at his place just to hang out, because we are cool like that, and we sat watching a football game and drinking Hennessey… and before we both know it, we’re making out on his couch, he begs me to come inside and I oblige, but even though I’ve been drinking I’m very aware of what’s happening and that I didn’t really want to go there with him, so we make out some more, then I tell him I have to leave. He begs and begs for us to have sex, but I really insist I have to go. So I left.

So when we do talk, I told him that I know he is not looking for anything serious, and we already have a good friendship thing going, so let’s not go down that “sexual fling” road. I don’t want that for me anymore. Because as he said, even though things may not work out with his ex, he still wouldn’t be ready for a relationship, which is fine because that’s the last thing I need right now. so as far as I’m concerned, we have an understanding.

So this is my question: how far would a guy go to try to get to know you only to fuck you and nothing more???? I mean, I know some people go all out and take you out and spend money and make you feel like the last woman on earth, but do women actually get neon signs telling you to run from these guys or are they really that good????

SEXUAL TENDENCY LEADS TO DEADLY CONSEQUENCE

Children are the true victims of many of our selfish behaviors. Again, I am not a mother, but I am truly sick to my stomach when I hear about the type of men that women decide to date and bring into their homes. WOMEN, instead of trying to find a man with a big penis and enough money to make it rain, try and find a man with morals, ambition, and many of the great qualities that one should posses. Now, I know that every man has a past and that we shouldn't discriminate against those who have criminal records, but we are talking about our child! Why must a woman ever think to date a convicted rapist? You look at the news today, and you constantly hear stories about children being raped, beat, and murdered. WAKE UP! Are your sexual needs more important than the safety of your own child? We must be extremely careful of who we are dating, once we enter motherhood. Many of us are single mothers and are back on the dating block, but that doesn’t mean that the long length of time of being in a relationship made you become completely naive of what is lurking outside of your door. Ask questions! Never let a man know where you rest your head at night, until you have truly gotten to know who he is. Do background checks. Many of us make light of this, but I think it’s important to find out if he was an abused child, credit history, and past relationships. Talk to your child! If your child’s body language seems to change when he’s around, then find out why. Listen to your child! I know people who were abused sexually and physically from a step parent, and when they confided in their mother, it was simply swept under the rug or often told that it was not true. Again, our need to be loved should never overshadow our need to make sure that our children’s safety is secure.

CHATTY PATTY CHALLENGE (CLARIFICATION)

To all my foreigners interested in competiting in Patty's Challenge, you must spend no more than 75.00 US on this contest. I understand that the currency is different depending on which country you come from, so you will have to do the conversion on your own. I was also asked if the purchase has to be a recent one and the answer to that question is NO! As long as you have the reciept for the outfit, then you can qualify. You may only enter ONCE! So make sure that you are happy with what you have selected. Let the games begin! Contest ends on Thursday, May 14th. I'm so excited!!!!!!!

LOVE IN THE CLUB

I believe that the best conversations that you can have about relationships is with a man. There is nothing like going in a barber shop or a music studio and having a round table convo about everything in reference to the male and female species. So last night, I was at Reggae Pop Records studio and I didn’t leave till after 1 in the morning. Unlike Usher who sang that he wanted to make love in the club, the men in that studio wanted to just f**k in the club. Basically it was emphasized that a wife is NEVER found in the club. So it had me thinking if someone can truly find a long term relationship with someone in the club. Speaking from my own experience, I did, and this year will make it 4 years for me. I have no rules or step by step producer of turning a club head into a husband. Maybe I’m one of the unlikely ones. I do want to hear from you. Do you agree that love can NEVER be found in the club? If you agree or disagree, please tell me why?

BUDGET FASHIONISTA CHALLENGE!

Hey Chatty Patty peeps! Since the economy is the way that it is, I have decided to give you a challenge and that is only if you’re willing to step up the plate! I am having a contest for my true Budget Fashionistas! I am challenging my readers to purchase an outfit for $50.00. The $50.00 must include the outfit and accessories, or outfit and shoes. You must show proof of receipt! This contest ends on Thursday, May 14th. You will need to email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com. A photo of you in the outfit and proof of receipt must be included in the email. The winner of the contest will receive a $50.00 gift card to the store of their choice. Don’t worry, my overseas readers, you too can enter this contest. So tell your friends to log on to Chatty Patty in order to register and win! Good luck!

COLONY RESTAURANT

Often when I'm walking on Ocean Drive, I quickly pass by the annoying men and women forcing you to eat at their expensive restaurants, on the way to Wet Willies.  But since I have this blog, I'm willing to try about anything to make sure that my readers get a sense of what is truly in our beautiful city.  So on this night, me and my girls decide to stop at Colony Hotel.  I was excited to see that many of their entrees on their menu were half off, so we sat and decided to order the Grilled Salmon and Mash Potatoes.  The drinks were also buy 1 and get the other free and not to mention that Happy Hour is until 12 midnight.  We also ordered the Mozzarella Sticks until our food arrived.  The appetizer was on of the best mozzarella sticks I've eaten in a while.  The meal didn't take long to arrive on our table.  The meal including drinks and gratuity was $35.00. From a 1-10 scale, I give my experience at Colony Restaurant an 8 1/2.  The Salmon was great, the mash potatoes needed to be a bit warmer.  Overall, I highly recommend this restaurant!  I love the fact that Happy Hour last till midnight so you have enough time to come home from work and really get your sexy on before hitting the beach.  You can't beat a menu that's offering half off on most of their entrees.  Eating on South Beach and feeling the cool ocean breeze is the best part of the meal.

Colony Hotel & Restaurant

736 Ocean Drive, Miami Beach, FL 33139

WARNING SIGNS

Sometimes when we enter a new relationship, we tend to hear one side of your partners break-up.  Most of the time, we tend to believe that person, because we are often blinded by our infatuation for him/her.  The ex says a few angry words and you just brush it off as someone being angry and biter over the break-up.  I'm starting to wonder if their words are really those that hold some truth to them.  In my past relationships, the ex's said a few things that I didn't believe at the time and some of warnings turned out to be true.  Have you had the same experiences?  Should we as women/men find out the other side of the story before we take the relationship a step further?

ON VACATION!

Hi everyone!  Sorry I haven't put up any new post.  I am on vacation and I'm trying to make the most of the last couple of hours I have left, but there will surely be some posting available tomorrow.  I have a new restaurant review, question of the day, and I'm adding new things to my blog.  Please don't forget to spread the word about Chatty Patty!  Subscribe to my blog!  Vote on how I'm doing so far!  

TWITTER

Hi Chatty Patty peeps!  Its Good Friday and I'm home trying to do little things before I go on the road.  I was supposed to be on vacation this weekend, but I have decided to postpone the trip for another time.  I will make the most of my days off and hope the weather gets sunny so I can hit the beach this weekend.  I've just signed up on twitter, in hopes that I can broaden my fan base, and so far, its confusing.  Nothing like Facebook.  Since the critics say its the best thing next to slice bread, I decided to try it and see what can happen.  Check me out at www.twitter.com/realchattypatty.  Well, I'm going on a date with my better half, so I will check in a little later.  PATTY LOVES YOU!

SEX ON THE FIRST DATE

Is sex on the first date a guarantee not to have a second one?  If so, how long should a person wait to have sex?

NEW ADDITIONS TO CHATTY PATTY

Hey everyone.  I have added a couple of new things to my blog.  First, I would like to know what you think so I added a poll.  PLEASE be very honest with your responses.  I will also like to hear your responses in great detail, so please email me at therealchattypatty@gmail.com.  DO NOT POST THEM ON MY PAGE!  I have also added some music!  People who know me personally know that my music selection is extremely diverse, so glance through it and get a feel of what I love to listen to on a daily basis.  Thanks to Whytegirl, I have added a QUESTION OF THE DAY!  I want to hear what you have to say.  I want lots of comments, discussions, and arguments.  So everyday, I will add a new question and I look forward to your responses. CHATTY PATTY, hasn't reached its full potential, so please be patient.  I am making improvements and adding new things daily.  Again, I am grateful to all who log on each morning, email me and text me and give me support.  You are the reason that I am doing this and I will continue to keep you satisfied.  PATTY LOVES YOU!

SHARING YOUR MATE

You're relationship is dying.  You only have sex at least once every other week.  He/She is cheating on you and you are fully aware.  You're desperate to save your relationship/marriage. Will you be willing to share your man/woman?

SEXY RIPPED JEANS

Since ripped and torn jeans seem to have resurrected once again, why not rock them with a sexy wife beater or short cropped top.  (middle, www.guess.com $138.00, left www.asos.com $50.00) If  you want to try this style on your own, simple take a pair of jeans and a scissors.  Cut lines along the jeans.  To get an even more rugged look, splash some bleach and throw in the washing machine.  Pair it with a pair of pumps or flat strappy sandal for a boho chic look.  

LUCKY STRIKE

Last weekend, me and the girls went to Lucky Strike bowling alley on South Beach.  From a 1-10 scale, I would give this place a 9.  First of all, I would highly recommend Lucky Strike to those wanting to flex their bowling skills or go on a date.  There is a $45.00 fee to play 1 hour of bowling, plus a $4.95 fee to rent the shoes. Depending on how many people you invite, the cost can be split amongst everyone.  Lucky Strike has a 60's feel, with sofa's, big screen televisions, pool tables, and a large bar. The menu doesn't consist of your normal greasy selection.  I highly recommend their spinach dip, the mini burgers and salads.  The staff was great!  The location is near Collins so after bowling, you can walk down the strip and do some shopping.  I'm looking forward to bowling again!

1691 Michigan Ave Ste 115 Miami Beach, FL 33139 - (305) 532-0307

Open Mon 12am-1am, 11:30am-1am; Tue-Thu 11:30am-1am; 

Fri 11:30am-2am; Sat 11am-2am; Sun 11am-12am

YOU'RE MARRIED AND I LOVE YOU

When is it ever a good time to tell your family/ friends that the man you are currently dating is married? Can there be a future between the two of you? I am not referring to those that are living with wifey or hubby, but those that are separated or in the process of getting a divorce. This of course is very sensitive topic and I will try to approach it will delicate hands. There are so many women, currently dating someone in which the divorce papers haven’t been finalized, but does that mean that that man/woman is not allowed the luxury of dating. What about the woman in the situation, do we have the right to demand certain things in the relationship. The older we get, the more likely we will find a man that is either married, divorced, or have kids. This is something that is merely impossible to avoid, so with this, we have to know how to handle the situation if it comes our way. First off, I would give the guy major points for at least admitting that he is still married and this will allow you to decide whether or not this is a situation that you want to step into. If so, then we can proceed. It is important that you ask as many questions as possible about his situation, so that you are fully aware of what is going in the divorce proceedings. Don’t, for not even one moment, SETTLE for anything! If you realize that this is a situation that you can't allow yourself to get involved, then be honest and let him/her know. They may be disappointed, but in the end, I'm sure that they will respect your honesty. Get to know the soon-to-be ex. You may be hearing one side of the story and I think its a good idea to know the other half. Kids may be involved and you want to make sure that you have a good relationship with them too. They are much more involved in the divorce proceedings than anyone else. BE PATIENT. Divorce doesn't happen in one day, and if there is property or custody involved, it can be much longer than expected. Ask he/she what are the plans after everything is finalized. You don't want to be left in the dust when its all said and done. There is nothing worse than you wanting to get married and he/she having no plans to ever walk down that road again! So, ladies and gents, ask plenty questions, be open minded, get to know his family, and determine if this is a storm that you can whether.

MURDER ON MY BRAIN

I truly understand why Miami is the road rage capital of the world! This morning, I would have probably been blogging from prison or having someone blogging for me, but that woman realized who she was messing with and hauled ass! This morning, I was on my way to class and decided to park at a meter parking since I was already 30 minutes late. I decide to reverse into the parking space and this woman comes behind me in her car. She can clearly see that I am reversing and refuse to do the same. She begins to blow her horn and so I kindly waved my hands out the window, signaling her to go around me. She ignores the signal and continues to blow. I pushed aside the kind Patty and decide to introduce her ass to the ghetto bitch ass Patty! I came out the car like a mad woman and told her that I trying to reverse and that she has to back up. She said she isn’t going anywhere and decides to stay in that stop. I approached her car and began to cuss every cuss word I could think of and if I had one, I would have introduced to her Smith & Wesson too! I told her ass “well I have all day, and I will park my ass right here, cause I ain’t going no f**king where”! So she sat in park for a couple of seconds and decides she couldn’t take the heat and decided to reverse. While driving towards me, the bitch had the nerve to speed as if she was going to purposely slam into the back of my car! At that moment I was prepared for what may happen and I was prepared for what I was going to do to her. At this moment, people were already looking at the commotion. She sped around me and took the punk ass move! I wish that bitch would have hit my car. The way I would have handled her old bitch ass, I would have been willing to spend time in prison for it! So that was my story for the morning and until I calm myself down, I will not be blogging, because the post will be representation of an ANGRY BLACK WOMAN!

THE HILLS

Tonight will be the be the premier of the final season of The Hills, and though I’m sad to see this show take its final curtain call, I feel that its about time that these cast members really put all their differences aside and begin to have some sort of privacy in their lives. Lauren Conrad was interviewed saying that tour buses were passing in front of her home and she was continuously being stalked by the paparazzi. These are some of there reasons for her ending her stint on The Hills. Hopefully, they won’t disappoint us, and we will continue to see great fashion and the continuous arguments over their friendships and relationships. Tune in at 10:00 pm on MTV.

SECRETS AMONG FRIENDS

Boyfriend decides that he’s going out tonight, and you don’t mind, because you have exams and need to stay home and study. Your girlfriends are going to the same club and you feel secure in your relationship, not to have them spy on him. When leaving the club, your friends spot your man talking to another female. The two of them get into the car together and drive off. They decide to put it on themselves and follow the two until the reach in front of a house. Not only is he dropping her off, but he follows behind. It’s clear on what their intentions are. Furious, the screaming begin, “Girl, I got to tell Stacy about this”! “I told her ass he’s no good”! “I’m not saying shit, what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”! The girls decide not to say a word on what they saw. What’s wrong with this picture? How often do we know that our friend’s boyfriends are cheating and not speak up about it? Is it fair for your friend to be lied to by her man and now you? Maybe you feel that she will stay with him regardless, so you say absolutely nothing about it. If you are one of these women, I really want to know why you would stay in silence. If you are a friend who will instantly tell her, when her man is being unfaithful, tell me why you think this is the best option.

TRIBAL WEAR

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1. African print dress $68.00, www.urbanoutfitters.com

2. Spaghetti string halter dress $38.00, www.lulus.com

SLEEK & CHIC

There's nothing like going out looking sexy wearing something black and tight.  Well I found some cute items all under $100 at www.urbanoutfitters.com

1. Strapless black dress $98.00

2. High waisted black skirt 49.00

3. Shiny black legging $38.00

WHAT ARE WE FIGHTING FOR?

Last night, I went to a party.  Everyone was looking nice, and enjoying the night, but like clockwork, someone has to spoil the fun for the rest.  An argument breaks out and a weapon is drawn.  The crowd starts to part ways and security rushes in.  They quickly pull a girl out the club and the lights are turned on.  I'm ready for it to get shut down and having to go home earlier than expected, but the music continues to play and we continue where we left off, but not for too long.  The police enter the venue and advises the d.j. to cut the music.  Those that paid their money are left disappointed, once again, at the cost of bitches behaving badly.  Now, I know that some reading my blog may know the women who were involved in last nights fiasco, but I'm speaking for those who actually pay their money and expect to have a good time. WHAT THE HELL ARE WE FIGHTING FOR!  Why must I go out, and continuously see women arguing and fighting over bullshit!  Promoters pay their money for the venue, fliers, advertisements, to only see their earnings fall because people don't know when to grow up.  If you have beef with someone, take that shit outside!  Your foolishness can cause an innocent person to lose their life.  We don't want to see it and we don't want it to ruin our night.  

AUTISM

April 2nd was Autism Awareness Day. I thought it was very important for us to touch on this very delicate subject. Many people are unaware of this disease and the effects it can have on the individual or the family. Many people many not know that my oldest brother was autistic and he wasn’t diagnosed till he was about 3 yrs old. I always knew from a young age, that my family was special and I grew up knowing that my brother had to have special attention and it wasn’t a burden, but something we knew we had to do. Though he wasn’t able to communicate back to us, he was very intelligent and knew how to say certain words. Autism is extremely hard for the family members to deal with and the hardships come from the outside world. People can be extremely cruel towards something that they are unaware of. Ignorance is rampant and I hear people speak of the R word as if it’s some kind of joke. I’ve NEVER said that word and I let people know how hurtful it is to hear someone say it, not knowing how insensitive it is to someone living with this disease, everyday. Autism isn’t something that a doctor can determine before birth like Down Syndrome. People living with Autism looks like you and I, but their actions is what make others aware of their condition. This isn’t something new, but it is happening more often than many want to believe. Many celebrities like Jenny McCartney, Vanessa Robinson, and Toni Braxton, all have children with autism. With their voices being heard, they are educating the nation on this disease. There are different stages and some cases are more severe than others. It isn’t the end of the world when dealing with autism. It’s a blessing to be able to help those in need and know that God never made any of us to be PERFECT human beings. Whether you want to care for someone with special needs or not, is not the reason for this posting. I just want everyone to beware of the negative and hurtful things that you say and how it can affect the people around you. My brother has since passed away and I will always have a special need to help those that were in my situation. Life is bigger than the BS that we fight and argue about everyday. We have to give back! Many of us have the opportunity to do so many things and we waste our talents on idle nonsense! We have to learn to be caring and understanding of one another. Ignorance is intolerable! Visit www.worldautismawarenessday.org to find out more about autism.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS!

You and your man decide to go to the club last night. You had a good time. Drinks were flowing, good music spinning and the vibes was real nice. Its 5 in the morning and you are heading home. His phone rings and he picks up! By the tone of his voice, you realize that it’s not one of his homeboys, so your mood instantly changes. “The club was good”; “Yeah so and so was there”. The conversation ends about 2 minutes later. “Who the hell is that”! “Oh, that’s Karen; she wanted to know how the club was”. “Why the hell couldn't she wait till tomorrow morning to ask you that question”! “I don’t know”. Instantly you become accused of being an over jealous girlfriend and how he can’t have friends. Give me a damn break! Two days ago, I did a post about ex-lovers being friends after a relationship is over. I said yes, but I put great emphasis on the fact that the “friend” need to have RESPECT! I’ve ran into this problem so many times of women not having any respect for their friends relationship! I say WOMEN, because, I never hear men complaining about their woman’s male friends calling at odd hours of the morning. I get so aggravated thinking of this issue and the many women who will agree that they go through the same situations constantly throughout their relationship. Stop doing things that you wouldn’t want to have done to you! The friendship had to end between him and his friend, because the disrespect continued on until the ultimatum came and I had to let him know what time it was. I’m still around, so you know what he chose. But something bothered me, till this point, about the whole thing. Why must a man make you feel that because you want boundaries set in their friendships that they keep, that we truly don’t want them to have friends? I for one don’t mind my man having friends but at the end of the day, acknowledge that fact that I exist. I don’t want to have a conversation with you, but give me my respect, as I give you yours. I’m not going to bash the women, when the men are as much to blame for this whole situation to reoccur. Men, you have to learn to set your boundaries! At the end of the day, your woman should never feel disrespected and angered over the fact that this BITCH can’t keep track of time. If not, run the risk of losing her! Men allow certain situations to happen and then become upset when the arguments begin. How would you feel if men were calling our phones all hours of the night and instead of letting them know that it’s too late to call at this hour of the night, we instead, hold a conversation with them, while you’re lying in bed next to us! You wouldn’t like it, and I know that it would only take a second for you to grab that phone away and start cussing his ass out! So, yes, men and women can be friends, but I feel that women cross the line way too often in their pursuit of the friendship. It’s not right, it’s not fair, and it needs to stop now!

BIRTHDAY HANGOVER!

Hello to all my Chatty Patty family! Sorry, I don't have a juicy post uploaded as of yet. I was out last night at my little get together for my birthday and didn't come home till 3 this morning. So I will surely have something here once I drink my coffee and eat my breakfast. Again, I have to thank everyone for the love that you showed me and the party will continue for the entire month. I am trying to organize a get together so I can get to know some of you. So please be patient with me this morning, I will have something for you!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!!!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!  29 years, on this day, I was born, and 29 years ago my father got fired from his job.  Yes, my father got fired the day I was born!  What a way to come into this world!  I won't be posting anything today, because I will be celebrating, but I will surely have a post waiting for you to read tomorrow morning.  Enjoy your day!